Sounds like those Marines were arseholes themselves, not willing to help until they felt it was one of "their" women.

This is so awful on so many levels. That these young men's masculinity is so fragile that they 1) feel they have to harass women to prove themselves, 2) can't accept when someone steps in and calls them out on their aggression and behaviour and 3) can't accept that they were doing something wrong, and attack the…

"They don't mean any harm! Just accept it as a compliment!"

Society wants women to courageously fight back against their attackers and be brutalized doing so because it fuels the media machine that is powered by sexualizing violence against women. They'd rather have a dead martyr than a living victim who might say things that hurt their feelings, because that martyr no longer…

Tugce deserves sainthood. And I'm sorry, but if you strike someone in the head with a bat, that more than qualifies for "voluntary" manslaughter.

But could this have been avoided if those girls had just dressed less provocatively? Or if Tugce had given off less of a "I want to be hit" vibe?

Women can't win. If we stay silent about our harassment/abuse, people will blame us for not saying anything. If we DON'T stay silent, we're still condemned or worse, killed. When are people finally going to understand that WE are not responsible for the actions of men? This man was so insulted that a woman would…

This is just appalling and tragic. And guys wonder why women are afraid to speak up when we face street harassment. It's of small comfort to her family, I am sure, but she will be remembered as a hero.

It was horrible enough they were harassing teens in a bathroom and nobody was doing shit to help, but then when a brave woman helps, she gets killed.

Maybe we should focus less on trying to change who we are and more on trying to play to our strengths. Like if you're stubborn, you're probably loyal and stand up for what you believe in. If you're wishy-washy, you're probably flexible and open-minded. Awesome people come in all types.

Too late. Oh well.

I'm working on being more protective of my lawn.

I have 4.5 years to change....but I'm a procrastinator so really I have 3 months.

I've changed a lot over the last 5 years or so (I'm 35) but I do find I fall back on bad behavior and I have to check myself. So I think I agree with the rising to the occasion theory. I choose to be a better me.

SHIT

So, I'm 38. Does this mean I can stop trying to improve myself because even the effort is worthless? I can get behind this!

"It's in no way a deal breaker for me." — But what IS a deal breaker is that you two don't feel comfortable talking openly about it. In my experience, if you can't talk about 'bedroom' i.e. sexy-time subjects, it often means that other aspects of the relationship cannot be talked about either. Open communication in a…

I think you're giving "hipster" too much credit as a lifestyle thing. That look is ubiquitous by now. If you want a guy in flannel and glasses, its really not hard.

Not a bad apology, to be honest.

I had a boyfriend in college who went completely off the rails after I broke up with him. He sent 2-3 emails every day for months with violent threats that were just vague enough that the police couldn't do anything about it.