This is so true. One of my favorite movies that I identify the most with is “Now Voyager” with Bette Davis. I often think about Charlotte Vale and her relationship with her mother and how it’s so similar to mine situation. Charlotte goes to the sanatorium and comes back with that grand reveal as a new, glamorous…

Thank you so much for you kind words. I’m legit crying right now, so that means you are right.

This is true and a sentiment that someone like my mom has, so I make it a point not to listen.

Thank you. I looked up the women’s center on the google. It looks like there is one berkeley that might be it. According to the website it’s been around since 1979. Anyway, therapy is good, I’ve done it in the past, but for other issues. When I’m ready, it would be good to have that place in mind.

Thank you so much. I’m still think things through about appearances, resentment, the past, and what is :expected” of me as a cisgendered black women in the U.S. It’s seems so daunting at times, sometimes the best I can do is just play videogames and tune it out.

That’s sounds like a good idea, but also sounds like a lot of work, with very little pay off and I’m kinda lazy, so yeah, sorry.

This is difficult to write because I’m not the best at expressing myself, so please forgive me if this doesn’t make sense.

Oh my dear. A guy who says “I make twice as much as you do, therefore my time is more valuable than yours” is never a good father and husband otherwise. Divorce him. 

It feels like the whole Silicon Valley geek culture seems to be infected with the hubris of misogynistic asshole men who don’t seem to care about women, or this country for that matter.

That’s weird. Why would they do that? I have my loans through nelnet via consolidating with the U.S dept of education and I was allowed to pay off a whole group of my total loan and it was applied to my principal balance. Nelnet practically encourages borrowers to pay toward the principal. Maybe it’s the service…

That might only help to put sex workers in a vulnerable position if they essentially go on a sex strike, since they need to work to live. They aren’t part of a union that most likely has strike compensation.

Men being trash? Must be a day ending in “y”.

Thanks so much, that’s really helpful. I’m such a newbie at this, the book I reading is helpful because it at least points me to websites and numbers to call, unlike other personal finance books I’ve thumbed through. I need as exact instructions as I can get, like go to this website, click here, enter info here,…

But if I did that, don’t I have to keep depositing money every so often? I’m afraid of being stretched thin and also keeping things straight. Do those accounts have rules on a minimum amount you are suppose to deposit to keep it open? I’m not sure how it all works, sorry.

That’s reassuring. I live in California with my mom and little brother and I just look at my financial situation and think “I’m never going to be able to afford a place of my own, no matter what I do and even if I do, I’ll probably be using half of what I make on housing alone, if not more.” So, I’m trying take…

That’s a good idea. I was watching an episode Consuelo WealthTrack, about women and investing specifically for the goal of giving donations and philanthropy. I thought it was pretty cool. I practically forgot about microfinancing. I’ll look into it.

Maybe a little, but I don’t really think so. I’m just lazy. Every time I go outside for anything other than work all I think is, “ugh, I could be at home sleeping right now, grumble grumble.”

That’s awesome. I wonder what other secrets she has beyond money accounts. Maybe she did other ciphers.

Thanks. I’m trying, but I can’t help but feel like I’m doing something wrong. Ultimately I’m just finding a way to be “comfortable” in my old age should I live that long. I don’t see myself getting married anytime soon or in the future, so there’s a good chance that I’ll be a “single income household” for the rest of…

WOW! Your GranFanda sounds wonderful! I want to do that. I can have a simple notebook as a account ledger and everything. This is great advice, thanks. Rest in Power GranFanda. <3