I especially dislike that this forgiveness is expected to be given even if the attacker hasn’t apologized and hasn’t faced actual justice.

It’s the same bullshit demanded of the mourning families of the Black men who have been wrongfully slain by the police. “Do you forgive them?”.

I hate, hate, hate the cult of forgiveness that has sprung up over the past decade. There is so much pressure put on victims to forgive the perpetrator. Great, one more thing on the list of shit. People have this ideas that if you don’t forgive the person, you are necessarily eaten up with negativity and hate until…

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