Ok... taking back a gift should not be a thing. Without knowing your situation, I think that trying to work on this problem might not be worth it. It sounds like there is more going on in his mind then the Valentines gift, and he is purposely being vindictive just to upset you. That rings of pre-breakup behavior,…

Girl...

DTMFA

My boyfriend and I switch years. So one year I find something for us to do and then the next is his. For example, I once tricked him to dress fairly fancy and then we went to do laser tag. It was a lot of fun. So no pressure and no accidental you spent more than I did. If it is his year, I will give him a card and…

k are you me? after 7 years of being together mrledeuce and I STILL have so many fights and stress about gift giving. ugh. we also got into a blow up over xmas stuff this year and ended it with deciding not to gift give at all. .

Yikes. Time to give your emotional abuser the gift he deserves: divorce papers.

I say this with all the love that this Internet stranger can: your husband is being an asshole.

This is heartbreaking. This is not rational, kind, or loving behaviour.

First of all...wow! It’s not like you forgot his birthday, or anniversary or Christmas. V-Day is just a made up excuse so people will spend more money they don’t have for stuff they don’t need. And if you haven’t in the past made a big enough deal about V Day to bother doing the gift thing, he can’t really just change…

That is extremely controlling and manipulative behavior. I’ve been through that before and this is really not okay.

If you don’t have kids, leave now. It’s only going to get worse.

Tell that guy to get the fuck out of the house. That’s some high class bull shit. No one should treat you that way, especially if you work full time and go to school in the evening.

Dude dump him right now. The dude’s a selfish creepy psycho and he’s using you for your great job and because you take care of him.

Does he openly dislike hiking? That’s the only explanation for such behavior. As for you not putting effort/money into picking a gift- in fairness, you haven’t put a ton in yet, it seems, but you’ve committed to do so in the future regarding planning the whole trip and paying for the hotel, so he needs to respect…

Husband sounds like a controlling asshole. The only gift he should be getting is a divorce.

This bullshit’s already controlling and cruel. He set her up to fail in a totally arbitrary game he threw at her with no warning.

He set you up to fail and then gaslighted you???

Dude, is your hubby a teenager?? Because he’s acting super immature.

As a husband who’d prefer my wife not spend time on gifts cause tolerating my ass is a full-time job already, I suggest going on the hike alone (or with close friend or family other than hubby) and give yourself some self-care. Explain to your husband that saying you don’t love him is hurtful, unproductive, and it’s…

“I got you a new gift, a divorce!”