Smile and roll with it and talk shit to your other friends, duh! That’s what I do.

This exactly! The idea of a big wedding kind of freaks me out to be honest, but now that my boyfriend and I have been together for the better part of a decade I’ve pretty much accepted that that’s the kind of wedding we’d have to have since his family contains approximately 1 million people, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

The core values, philanthropy, self-government, and leadership opportunities aren’t the problem—it’s that you only get to participate in those things if you meet certain criteria (white, blond, thin, conventionally attractive) and are willing to conform to really exacting standards for self-presentation. You can do…

This is my dream arrangement, please teach me your ways.