Ugh. I dated someone once and our whole relationship revolved around me watching him play MarioCart. It was a short lived romance.

I bet!

Honestly, it was sheer luck. I didn't even do the proper cat introductions (separated by a door for about a week so they can smell but not see each other). I'm very fortunate. I'm sorry your cat hates other cats. I had a guy like that once too. Getting him to live with the second cat and just ignore her was as good as…

Those faces! How do you get anything done? I'd just be staring at their cuteness all day.

Actually I have 5 but the brown and black tabby declined to be photographed. :)

Buffalo, NY here. My cats are just piling together in a cat heap for warmth. (Kidding. My apartment's actually pretty comfortable.)

As are you.

Not quite.

Yup. Anyone who doesn't agree with you is indeed a troll.

I didn't rile up anybody. They either agreed or didn't. Part of the reason the stars dropped off because the article wasn't close to the newest thing posted and fewer people were reading.

There is only one way to do things and that is chris-m's way! Got that?

There is only one way to do things and that's chris-m's way! Got that?

Wow! You dodged one hell of a bullet not marrying that guy!

I don't believe I was denying her/him a right to their feelings. If I did, I apologize. My point is that maybe expressing their unwillingness to empathize or understand didn't need to be publicly stated and helps no one.

I stand by the fact that dismissing someone else was the wrong tack to take but if you think I'm wrong because everyone expressing every feeling ever is more important than minding someone else's feelings when it costs you nothing emotionally to do so I can't dissuade you.

I never told her her feelings were wrong, just pointed out that expressing them when they diminished someone else's suffering was maybe not the right tack to take. I haven't sucked her today and there are plenty of people that agree.

It's a super common mistake but it's one of my pet peeves.

I'm not uncomfortable with her expressing "her truth". I just think it was unnecessary initially (remember , "her truth" was her unwillingness to empathize or understand). She was "shushing" the author of this piece. My problems from that point onward were her excessive hostility towards me as well as her insistence…

Nope. I'm not his/her therapist. I understand that commentor was a victim of abuse as I am capable of reading. I would just expect that someone who is a victim could show a little empathy or not bother broadcasting their lack of desire to do so. They could've also been far less hostile in dealing with me.

I never demanded that you act a certain way, I merely pointed out that it would be kinder and more helpful to do so. Your replies are increasingly belligerent and childish so I'm going to most likely bow out of this thread.