Hallelujah on the “MY WAY.” I rinse dishes before they go in the dishwasher (otherwise you get crud still stuck on after you’ve run it, plus you cumulatively screw up how well your dishwasher works), and I know the precise configuration for stacking that thing so I can fill it with 8000 items and only run it once…

This. I was briefly placed on a ‘psychiatric hold’ years ago in CA (they call it involuntary but I begged them to!) because it was the only way I was going to be able to access immediate help (and physical protection) during a severe panic attack due to my then-husband’s threats of violence on a Sunday evening (my…

Wow. Thanks for being brave and answering, and your honest reply! No wonder money is such a stress for you, but hooray that the rest is excellent! I know from experience that it’s hard to say “money isn’t everything” when you don’t have it (but it’s still true.) I 100% agree you shouldn’t be giving your dad your…

I tell everyone “I’m sorry, but so many of my friends and relatives are into these things and I can’t afford to buy something from everyone, so I just don’t go to any parties.” Same for hosting (I have an ideal space too) - “I can’t do it for everyone so I’d rather be fair.”

Men have to pursue women? If a guy never makes an advance, he never gets a woman? Seriously?

Betta fish can definitely die from overeating and it’s easy to do. Their stomach is literally smaller than their eye! Koi? I think they’re like carp, they can vacuum up everything.

We’re all friends here, right? Answer if you dare:

Cheers to this and a medium, light and heavy olive oil (at the least!)

Amen! If you were doing okay before the raise, always save/invest the raise. Set up a direct debit from your checking to savings to coincide with your paycheck. A $2000 raise is only about $40 more per week - that is so easy to blow on nothing!

A few ideas: the $5 note method. If you’re trying to save you should be taking out cash money to spend (obviously impossible if you are -0) because it makes it much more real than paying by card- and if you get a $5 note for change, SAVE IT. It goes in a jar, and eventually in a bank account. It can add up quick.

Don’t be! Chances are it will be benign, probably just a cyst, and (god forbid) if not, hopefully you’ve caught it early, you’ll know what’s up, and you’ll have the best range of options available to you thanks to early detection. Both knowing it’s nothing (phew..) and knowing it’s something are positive outcomes in…

At my first “lady doctor” appointment the male ob/gyn did a breast check and said casually “well, you naturally have very, very lumpy breasts, but I’m sure you knew that.”

You honestly just made my day (my week? My year?) because I think I was one of the people urging you that it would be okay... THANK YOU!!! It’s been a rough few weeks and this update made me feel great. I’m so proud of you! And hooray... negative, so the worry can hopefully start to subside... you have done a great…

Paloma Picasso also steals practically all of her designs... Pomellato did it first, you hack! (Elizabeth Taylor jnr here, I take jewelry very seriously.)

I’d be surprised if Leo was outed as a predator. As I’ve written above, when he’s in LA/NY he’s done the “baseball cap down, surrounded by a huge posse of guys” thing FOREVER. He has no hope of living like a normal person there, if he goes out he goes in the back entrance and makes a beeline for the least exposed spot…

The NYDN story is bullshit. If Leo is in Hollywood/NY and heading out, the “human shield of five friends and a baseball cap” is his thing (usually much more than five, actually) and has been for at least a decade. I’ve had a few Leo-initiated interactions with Leo (looong story, I called him out on being a dick at one…

No. I asked if someone could explain to me “wait... do white people even have cousins?” because I don’t get the joke. Yours was the first comment in the thread about the cousins remark, so my question went under your comment, but it was (obviously, I thought) directed at either the author or another person of color…

I’m a Becky with a white-haired, very pale, blue-eyed six-year-old son. He’s seriously like Casper the friendly ghost... I’m fair and blonde, but he is *literally* white. (When you take a child to Germany and everyone you meet says “Er hat so weisse Haare!,” you know your kid is really white.)

Yes, yes we do. Catholic family here! 7 kids in 3 years. To me my cousins are equal in pretty much every way to my brothers - we grew up doing everything together because our families had to pool childcare basically, and it’s great that now we’re adults we still love each other’s company so much, even though we have…

I’m so sorry. My parents were never physically abusive but both were very verbally/emotionally abusive (dad was untreated bipolar until I was in my 20s so he kind of gets a “pass” - except I never got a pass on what he did and said to me) and I’m sure I found myself in physically and sexually abusive relationships…