Yeah, I hate when people are like, “Oh, you’re an adult. Toughen up.” Uh, you’re an adult so how about not be an asshole.

Bjork is, without a doubt, one of my all time favorite artists. I simply adore her.

I still remember that even Heart had to fight this back in the day. Everyone “assumed” that they were just fronts for the real musicians and song-writers. How f-ed up is that? Seriously. Seriously f-ed up is the answer.

I am getting this printed on a T-shirt, who wants one?

This is gonna sound insensitive but I honestly have NO desire or wish for all these reboots. Gilmore Girls, Full House, X files...the talk of Friends. There is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much good TV out there to waste time on what Emma is doing in college. Who the fuck cares?

Jezebel does not seem to have a troll patrol forum but desperately needs one. Can someone do anything about this torture porn you’ve put up?

Not important? NOT IMPORTANT??

It’s faith in one’s own immunity from consequence that allows people to act like assholes. Simple as that.

Right. But does doing something short sighted and selfish in your early 20s mean you are a bad person? I don’t know. I did a lot of short sighted and selfish things in my early 20s that very well could have had an impact on someone’s life. These things exist on a spectrum, but even acknowledging that there are degrees…

Thirded. A lot of feminist/social justice writing refuses to acknowledge the grey, when most things are grey.

Thirded. A lot of feminist/social justice writing refuses to acknowledge the grey, when most things are grey.

“See, even the feminists admit rape isn’t real!”

Yeah I’ve noticed this a lot too... the old “give em an inch and they’ll take a mile” problem. People feel reluctant to admit any sort of grey area because they’re worried their adversaries are going to perceive it as weakness and run with it, so they default to a sort of Manichean mindset.

I firmly believe age of consent laws are there for a reason, and do not mistake that I don’t think Bowie did the right thing. I don’t think any grown man should be sleeping with a girl that young, even if they are in their early 20s and blitzed out on cocaine. Like come on dude, you know she’s too young for you!

I appreciate your willingness to write a story that reflects deep ambivalence.

I think I echo your sense of confusion around what it really means to say that “the times were different,” and how that is both simultaneously an explanation and a failure of an explanation.

I think part of what makes these conversations so difficult is that we can’t ever hold them in a truly safe space. We can’t have a real conversation about the grey areas in sexuality without some creep jumping in to be like, “Exactly, it’s complicated, that’s why I’m not a rapist.” We feel pressure to be like “CONSENT…

I appreciate your willingness to write a story that reflects deep ambivalence. I think there isn’t enough of that anymore (everything is always strident and polarized) but you did a great job sitting with the murkiness of what this all means about Bowie’s legacy.

I’m not crying...

I frickin love her. Such a beautiful soul.