Its starting to look like a lot of the Olympic sports are having this sort of problem, swimming in particular. There is a culture of obsessive dedication with these that leaves kids particularly vulnerable. The pressure put on them by parents and themselves to succeed and just like in this case they are told their…

I understand where you are coming from, but then what about every adult and every child in every situation? How would we accomplish that? It essentially means doubling the staff working with children, in every setting.

I could have told you that dude was a victim of some seriously horrendous abuse LONG before he made an inappropriate joke about it.

Milo Yiannapoulous just got his ass handed to him today.

Interesting comment. I’m a woman who can do two things: accepts certain statistics, while also despising stereotyping. Enjoy your day.

I disagree with this, you don’t just turn into a pedophile by spending time around kids, that’s not how that works. He probably sought out the job because he’s a pedophile.

I don’t get it.

I’m saying any abusive asshole would have succeeded in abusing, given these conditions.

Understand this goes both ways, when I do follow these tenets as you lay them out and the cop is still a jerk, “then don’t expect me to bet my life that you’re just a run-of-the-mill asshole cop,” and teach my kid accordingly why they shouldn’t trust you.

Put your son in little girl onesies to fuck with her. #familydrama

Didn’t Philando Castile do everything right and end up dead? He had his hands on the wheel. He alerted the cop to the fact that he had a licensed firearm on his person and that he was going to get it to hand it over, and then the cop shot him as Castile reached for the ID he had been directed to produce?

Listen, I…

Please don’t do this. The problem is institutionalized coercion, fear, and excessive respect of authority, not the gender or age of the abusers.

“but that ain’t gonna save you if you give a middle finger and talk shit to a psycho cop who’s having a bad day”

If reveling in racist/sexist/homophobic jokes are the main source of fun at a party, that’s not a party I’d want to go to.

What is a party? Do people join together and talk of things?

this works on unnecessarily gender-normative statements, too!

I’d really enjoy a party with this happening actually, thanks. It’s be hilarious to watch assholes try to scramble.

This is what I do! Anytime I hear a racist/sexist/homophobic “joke” I just look at them blankly and say, “I don’t get it.” Asking someone to explain, out loud, the source of their “humor” is usually pretty embarrassing for them. (Well, not the people who revel in their obnoxiousness but those people are unreachable…

This doesn’t work with every bigoted conversation, but as a straight white guy, a lot of bullshit I hear is framed as stuff like “Women, am I right?!” I like to look at them blankly and say “What do you mean?” Just act completely, utterly confused by any negative stereotypes. Often asking people to explain their…

Serious question: How do I apply this to adults without sounding condescending*?