Did indeed read my own article. Last graph: "So what does all of this mean for people who want to, well, "call a spade a spade"? I urge caution. Mieder concludes his case study with the argument that "to call a spade a spade" should be retired from modern usage: "Rather than taking the chance of unintentionally…

Sad irony for T-Boz's word choice: 'calling a spade a spade' has racist origins, and is linked to the "exotification and sexualization of black culture."

Agreed. Why is this any of the mom's business in the first place? Seems like the best advice would be along the lines of "you raised a daughter who is curious about healthy sexuality. Congrats. Move along. Nothing to see here."

I don't know why I'm saying this, because I support Stiviano for recording the call...but I believe California law actually requires TWO-party consent: http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displa…

"the pencil dick Westboro mourners"

"when it comes to love...I don't choose sides"

As I read through the comments, it feels like folks might be talking past each other a bit, and I wonder if this analogy might help bridge the gap (particularly in light of Lindy's piece from yesterday):

Designed to grace the homes of connoisseurs and collectors, these chopsticks are 9½" long

I love this 'do. It makes me want to grow my hair out, full-time. But is it the hairstylification of the male gaze in 2014? In other words, is it possible to like it apart from its sex-tussled-Rapunzel-y context?

The Chinese on the guy's back at 1:45 reads "我相信我能飞"...literally, "I believe I can fly." R.Kelly reference? What?

I don't know if it's my headshape or lack of skill, but I've been trying to emulate this style since she gave it to us 14 (!!) years ago, and I CANNOT. It is so, so much harder than it looks.

I love the idea of this dress, but I think the blush-to-rotten vomit ombre was a very risky color choice. It leaves doubt as to whether it was intentional, or just swept up and stained along the way...

chin up! Architects, engineers, and Asian intellectuals the world over hold our degree in the highest esteem. ;)

whoa, whoa, whoa. "a college in Texas"???!!

Because I agree with almost everything you said, I ask this as a sincere "we": do we hold bell hooks to a higher standard [than other feminist-intellectuals], in this case at least, because she is black? If so, is that an unexamined irony, in light of the acknowledged race-inflected criticism of Beyonce's [imperfect]…

OH, I hope you write, with a byline, for an even wider audience. This is so insightful; so on-point. Thank you!

Not there: Christiane Amanpour. I have no idea if she declined an invitation, or if she wasn't invited. I sort of hope it was the former, just to prove a point: there's tv, and then there's journalism.

The series is described as an earnest look at a group of millennial women — who happen to be transgender — living, loving and building their careers. The series will explore how their sexuality impacts their lives.

The master's tools will never dismantle the master's house.

We are all made women, and young cisgender women are recognising that our culture is so deluged in misogyny and sexism that young trans girls soak it up and internalise it—not the way that boys do, the way that girls do. Because trans girls are girls. Why should the shared socialisation and history be ignored?