Very astute. There is, I think, a value in understanding this phenomenon so as to better understand white racism — not because white racists* merit sympathy, but because it never hurts to understand the thought process of your opponents*.

I could kiss you! I have grown tired of reminding Black men that Black women are not the enemy, that we wore chains too and contrary to their perception, we do not work in post racial environments. No one GAVE me job, especially not for the purpose of humiliating Black men. I earned my degrees by attending school…

Disagree. The Root has always been straight forward. The article speaks the truth. And sometimes that truth hurts. We gotta do better for all of us for all of us to do better.

How people still follow that conman is beyond me. How TF do you believe a man who says he needs to “renew his doctorate” as if that’s a real thing? Misogynoir is one hell of a drug, I guess.

I can’t remember where I read that, either. I know it was somewhere on Twitter, but the context escapes me—maybe after Sandra Bland?

Why is talking about the reality of what Black women face anti-Black male? We are always told we’re being divisive when we talk about what’s going on. It’s a great way to silence us and nothing has to change. This has nothing to do with white people and what they want.

Yep sadly when you mention this to many black men the response is pretty much the equivalent of “All Lives Matter” and they tell you about that time he read about a woman beating up her boyfriend or the lady teacher that was sleeping with male students and that girl that made him cry in 5th grade.

Omg this article is fucking perfect.

You could make the same argument about men of all races we really all are a problem.

What’s the doc? I’m interested in watching.

Thank you for this. I am the oldest of 5 mixed kids. Over the last 10 or so years us kids have started noticing that our white mother holds some fucked views on race. Just recently my youngest son asked her what she thought about Trump. I had to shut that conversation down quick. I have tried to shield my kids from…

I don’t go out of my way to antagonize people I’m related to, but the fact that certain people decided to fuck and as a result I’m related to a bunch of jerks also doesn’t fill me with a sense of obligation.

I’m so happy to see that this was the first comment. People who think that family should somehow be “spared” when they are toxic like this are maddening to me. Your parents do not get a free pass on dehumanizing you or demeaning you and no one is required to support family unreservedly.

Oh my Lord, Panama, I had no idea you were going through this. I have tears in my eyes right now. I would say that I cannot imagine, but I can. I have not spoken to my parents in years. I drew a very reasonable line and demanded respect and they refused. I will not back down and I will not regret it. I support you…

What I don’t get is how the hell a Frenchwoman who’s parents were probably directly affected by WWII apparently sees nothing wrong with letting Nazis have free-reign to trample all over a government again.

I find McMullin’s political career depressing - not because of anything he’s done, but because his miniscule following shows how tiny the audience is for non-crazy conservatism.

Panama what a beautiful heart breaking piece to read. I’m the mother to a wonderful biracial boy and the wife to an incredible black man who made it from the Foster Care System to the Ivy Leagues. I respect admire and adore your writing. My husband and I are raising our kid to fully embrace the biracial experience…

I know it’s not shocking, but it’s heartbreaking to hear someone talk about how their own mother chose whiteness over their children. And wanting to take you to a step-family’s Thanksgiving? Just gross.

Good morning PJ. I had a similar relationship with my best friend’s mother until, for my own mental sanity I had to cut her off. My best friend is white and I am black and I am the godmother her children (if the unthinkable happens, my BFF wants me - and not any one in her family - to take care of her kids, lawyers…

I get the drama with your mama thing just on a general level from hard-won personal experience. Also, you don’t have to agree on politics with your parents in general. That said, that your mom values Whiteness over her own kids and grandchildren are striking. Apparently, she doesn’t see anything in common between…