That is not what Chimamanda said. She didn’t use the word Cis and explained why. Whether you like it or not, her explanation clearly pointed out that it is NOT because she doesn’t believe trans women are women. Her point was that trans women have a different lived experience than cis women. That’s not wrong, is it?

Sorry but Obama and Clinton are more similar than people think, and they changed their minds - at least publicly - once they saw the popular tide had turned. Which, though cynical, is smart for politicians. The difference is Obama is a man, and naturally charismatic/likeable whereas Clinton isn’t, so she gets a lot of…

She didn’t initially take her husbands name, got shit for it. She didn’t initially play the role of wife in the public eye, an entire political party targeted her with vindictive retaliation for the rest of her life.

I actually rather liked the way that Adichie brought it up as a discussion point, talked about how it made her feel, and then handed over to Clinton to explain and talk through it. This led to an interesting discussion with valuable insights and I think that Clinton’s response was actually fantastic, whether she ends…

Everybody knows Hillary can’t win. (I has a sad)

I feel like if she started with listing her accomplishments, she’d be given shit for that, too.

Yet another person who thinks they’re too cool and radical to identify as bi, because everyone knows bi people are transphobic and wedded to the gender binary, etc. etc.

As someone who grew up Catholic (but now wouldn’t set foot in a church if the rest of the planet were lava), the way the Church treats nuns has a far-reaching effect that goes beyond just those nuns. It’s ingrained in your consciousness from an early age that the priests are superior. They’re saying mass. They wear…

I think there is something to say about performative social justice and progressiveness but this show isn’t saying it.

it’s very disturbing how many Republicans have been willing to embrace actual Nazis

Yup. It’s all part of the passive (“I don’t have to hide my bigotry any more!”) and the active (“He hates trans folks, so it’s ok for me to hate trans folks!”) damage that Trump is causing.

Free Willy:

It’s a tv trope. Even in ballet.

I had heard she was on it, must have been like 19-20? I’ve definitely never seen any of those seasons.

a charmed in the 70s that focused on the mom and gram raising three daughters would’ve been interesting. but i guess there wouldn’t be enough fighting the “patriarchy” even though it’s right after the first wave of feminism.

I’m all for growth and I understand feeling displeased at being reminded of your past. The part I’m having trouble with is the ‘attack’ wording. Why so dramatic? To those of us who have been truly verbally, psychologically abused and or physically attacked, leaving the fight because of a peeceived semantic sleight…

We’re actually not talking about Rose being complicit. We’re talking about what determines who is an ally and who isn’t, and if you were ever really an ally if you are capable of using some semantic offense to justify you declining to help. You’re deflecting. Our discussion is on being a good ally *despite*…

I agree with you that many of the women wearing black tonight were previously or currently complicit. And that wearing a really fancy gorgeous black gown is a pretty empty gesture in the grand scheme of things.

Can you help me understand what allyship entails? As a Black woman, I’m really confused about what people believe goes into being an ally. I see so many people declaring themselves to be allies and then everyone acts as if that label exempts them from unpleasant inspection or correction. So Rose says some of the women…

Practical Magic has remained one of my absolute favorite guilty pleasure movies for the past 10 years. It’s a real gem of a movie.