People don't get it. They really don't get it. I know life isn't fair, etc. But I work hard. I've purchased my own house. I buy my own cars. I have a college education and a job that I love. You and I are totally on the same side. Why isn't there a milestone to celebrate what I've done?

If I threw myself the big expensive party like I would want to have, I'd be renting a space to have it. Paying a caterer. Maybe paying a DJ. Buying alcohol, etc. Yet, no one would throw me a pre-birthday party shower. Or a pre-birthday party bachelorette. Or spend hundreds (or thousands in at least one case) on…

I see this same complaint all over and never understood it. Weddings are really effing expensive to throw. You bring that person $100 gift; they spent $120 on your dinner.

For me, it isn't that simple. I've spent tons of money celebrating my friends' weddings and babies because I love them. I did this. Yet, as a single woman, I don't get a celebration for my friends' to show me that they love me too. I don't want to be married. I don't want to have a child. That said, I would love…