Every time a member at my church goes in for surgery or a medical treatment, the first thing we do is pray for the hands of the doctor, nurses and medical staff. Miracles are worked through their hands, denying the miraculousness of modern medicine is ludacris.

People, please start believing that health care IS the miracle God sent you.

My mother-in-law already told me that I can’t have just one kid. I told her maybe I’ll just stick with zero then.

Ahhhhh, yes. Husband and I are firmly in the child-free camp*, and we often get questioned about our decision, as if we hadn’t thought long and hard and agonized over it, both separately and together. We both agree that it is a selfish decision, but we don’t see that as a negative thing, we see that as a mature and…

I’m a teacher, and that kind of thing makes me insane. I’m sorry. I hope your mother set her straight.

I had one child instead of two. Doing it wrong!

Back when we were struggling to conceive, I schooled an anti-choice acquaintance on why we couldn’t “just adopt” a baby (~$60K in fees, Guatemala closed its program, rejection from other international programs for my hearing loss and his Crohn’s, heartbreak over a state-side mom who changed her mind). She nodded her…

Totally. I have a friend who desperately wanted to adopt, but ended up getting pregnant instead because the adoption process was so expensive and grueling. Not only is adoption difficult, but it’s also flawed in many cases.

Or “well I thought it would fix my marriage, like how we got the dog when it seemed like he was flaking”

Talking about the decision to have kids with my queer friends: “I don’t know, I know it seems like a lot of time and effort and money but the truth is we’ve just reached that point in our life where we want to start a family and grow our love, you know?”

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. Anyone who says “just adopt” has never thought about it beyond the fact that there are kids who need parents. Like it’s that easy, you decide, and then the next day you bring home a kid.

The venn diagram between people who say, “Just adopt” and people who don’t know the first fucking thing about adoption is pretty much a circle. I’d love to see them try it, except they probably shouldn’t be exposed to children.

I am 0% surprised this peeves you too...... it's seriously unbelievable. How about "that sounds really hard. I hope it works for you. Let me know how I can best support you if you need anything..." We should film a PSA or something.

Ohmygosh NOTHING pisses me off more than the "relax!" crap you hear from anyone and everyone. It's so condescending and has absolutely no basis in reality. Nobody who has actually gone through this or anyone who has tried to get pregnant would ever say such a thing. Where did people hear that this is THE response they…

I am an IVF baby. We're triplets. I have nothing but good things to say about it.

I always seem to have to point this out whenever a post on ART comes up, but adoption in many places is many times more expensive than ART. Where I'm at IVF costs $5K a cycle, and they package three (which will result in pregnancy for the vast majority of women) for $11K. Whereas adoption costs $30-50K in agency fees,…

If you judge people for using IVF, at minimum, you are a jerk.

My friends looked into adoption versus IVF. They could adopt for the low low price of 4+ cycles of IVF. They only needed 1 cycle. They knew they wouldn't need more than 2 cycles.

And under the B, we already have our first "just adopt, you selfish bastard" comment.

*taking out my "Smug and Indignant Reproductive Troll" BINGO card*