I feel that Boko Haram is insisting that the girls are sexually unharmed because if they were sexually assaulted they would lose their value as bargaining chips for the group.

OH MY GOD WHAT A HAPPY GIRL I WANT TO KISS HER FACE ASDFJKASDJGKALDJGKDFLJGARFJGK

Yup, you've got me pinned. I think it lessens the shit the white women experiencing it are going through because it's happened to black women, too.

God, I hate people so much. Both my pups are rescues, and at least one of them was clearly abused before I adopted him (though thankfully nothing anywhere near as awful as this—he was very scared of people, but he was in good bodily health), and I can't read stories like this without imagining someone doing it to one…

The moment you use your credit card, you are at risk. That doesn't absolve a thief. Bitch.

Forgive my ignorance, but I thought this was a "woman" problem and not specifically a "woman of color" problem. I understand that women of color have historically been abused and exploited worldwide (and continue to be so). But in this specific instance, were the pics mostly of women of color? No. Were they…

I really like Gabrielle Union's statement, and it's all really important to think about and be aware of. But considering this particular hack has affected many women of all ethnicities, it seems like the wrong time to bring it up. It almost takes away from the pain and frustration felt by the victims of this crime…

While I agree that yes, women of color have gotten an extremely bad rap — I just do not see the necessity of bringing race into this. Why specifically say "yeah it happens to women but it's worse to women of color"? This is an all around horrific situation, period.

It doesn't "happen." Men do this. Then assholes like you work on the attackers' side by attacking the victims again.

Wow. I am pretty adamantly childless for myself, but I would never ever say to a friend "I can't believe you guys chose to have a child." That's shitty.

Nope. You replied first.

Men aren't expected or socialized to be primary caregivers, either.

It's different for everyone. Some people, men or women, just won't have the money or time.

I have one child and am on the poverty line. Without my child I would be middle class. This is not rocket science.

lol, didn't you harp on something she said?

Yes, and my choices aren't the same as yours because we are two different people with different lives. Can we stop now?

Yes, welcome to adulthood. We make choices that preclude other choices. And while you're obviously trying to make "lifestyle maintenance" sound superficial or self-indulgent, in reality it includes things like paying for health insurance and rent.

Exactly! And I can't fathom how people argue that some hypothetical happiness/regret outweighs actual lived happiness. I might regret not having a child someday, but I'm going to Tibet this year and I'll for sure have one of the most amazing experiences of my life—and I am able to take trips like that because I am…

I'd rather take the off-change that I'll regret not having them down the road ...than regret ever having them and be in an irreparable situation.

That's a really important point. I don't want children and neither does my husband, but I know that I'd love a child I made with him more than I can possibly understand. There's no one in the world I'd rather have children with than him. But I don't want children. It's a nuanced thing, for sure, despite how it's…