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Well... who are you? And by that I mean: you and many others have criticized her and her articles. I've read those criticisms, and they have two things in common: they, like you, are relatively anonymous, and they attempt to discredit her in any way possible, relevant or not to the points she is making.

How can you lose the legitimacy to talk about your own sexual assault and how you've gotten through when you've been legitimately assaulted. Do you think she 'trolling' when she talks about her own sexual assault?

But here you seem to be doing the same thing most of the critiques I read accused her of doing: claiming to speak very broadly (Why Do They Hate Us eviscerated for her use of Us; you saying "almost everyone in Egypt"), more broadly than can possibly be true. To be clear, I don't think you are literally saying that

Secondly, what she says is usually very off base from how most Muslims or Arabs/Egyptians feel, she not accurately representing the thought of the general population, whether its religious or political.

If she can give a voice to victims of sexual violence, then hopefully it will be one more voice that gets listened to. I'll take all the voices we can get.

Would you care to explain the reason for your disdain, other than that she lived in New York and has an international voice?

I don't think you wonder at all.

Yeah, all of these cases of "rape that didn't matter until the newsmedia picked it up" are really eroding my discomfort with vigilante justice. I know that vigilante stuff has the potential to go to really bad places, that the wrong people can be targeted, that mob mentality can get really scary.

You'd think folks would have a grip on the concept by now, wouldn't you?

"Anonymous tweeted about the boys yesterday along with the hashtag #RoastRapists. Ominous."

Look up the Catholic Church abuse scandal. Nobody cared much when it was girls reporting.

THIS.IS.RAPE.CULTURE.

I will not be touched between the legs by a man who is not my boyfriend. Personnel have to stand in a room and stare at a male doctor's hands because of liability issues. Does either of those statements imply that men are "rape bombs?" Nope.

I think that's probably true. However, I think that rape culture precludes that in certain ways, because as long as men (in a cultural sense) feel entitled to sexually assault women, that will drown out the efforts of the ones interested in women's health. And if men want to be interested in women's health, as

You're right, it's not the XY chromosomes that make him evil, but I think his male gender is relevant to the particular ways his pathology is manifested. Like, it's not arbitrary that it is a male doctor in a position of power inflicting violence upon a female patient in a position of vulnerability. There is

On the one hand your points are entirely valid. On the other they ignore the power imbalance that is making other posters fearful of putting a man in a position of power over their bodies.

A little complexity please. There isn't a historical and/or present-day epidemic of women sexually aggressing upon, violating, and exploiting men. There is with men towards women. This is what accounts for women's hesitation/caution/resistance. Not gender essentialism.

No, I don't think those men were wrong. And I don't blame women who don't really feel like they need to be wondering if their gender essentialism is unfair while they are in such a vulnerable position. Maybe I'm being unfair, and a male OBGYN is offended by that. Or maybe I'm the victim of sexual assault. If I

I am a medical student and this does not surprise me at all. I worked with a male OB/Gyn who was seriously creepy, used excessive roughness in handling speculums, pulling out placentas, and used inadequate anesthesia on purpose. He totally got off on it. He also regularly made inappropriate sexual jokes. Most of the

I totally understand why men may choose obstetrics as their specialty because, seriously, I've had two kids and still cannot fucking fathom that two completely different human beings lived inside my body. It's fascinating and mind-blowing and almost unbelievable.