Well I have concern when I hear comments like yours, but I dont jump to the idea youre in some physical danger. That doesnt even need to be the case to be concerned about comments like yours, and I posted what I did not just for you but to a wider reading audience, because as I said, this is a very common problem.…

I know what you were getting at. They dont change because they have no incentive to change. Their version of the world has them in power, and women are a there to please them. Imagine yourself raised to believe this EVERYWHERE, from every side, because that is the reality. Youre not going to question reality or want…

Fffuuck. I forgot. Youre the only black person and everything black is what you know from your anecdotal information. Likewise youre going to speak for every other culture that is non-wasp. No biting on the bait, argue with yourself, badass.

Hiigh fiive!

And?? That aint what those assholes are talking about. Thats normal, like you say. Theyre talking about punishing a person like they were a dog that misbehaved.

YES. You better listen to what that guy is ACTUALLY saying to you, and NOT how you WANT to interpret it.

a real life good guy!

thats different than telling you that youre manipulating him, if that is all he says. in that case, yeah, maybe he cant handle the emotion. its when a guy TELLS you that you are manipulating them that sets the meaning in a different realm.

No one is entitled to tell you youre a lying bitch, which is what that whole shit of them saying that is about. It is NOT about them not being able to handle it. Its 100% about them maintaining power. And another 100% about not seeing you as a 100% person.

That isnt whats happening when someone is BLAMING you for your emotions and telling you youre a lying manipulative bitch. THAT is what it means when a guy tells you that youre trying to manipulate them and they wont be swayed. They know fuck-all about you, your emotions and reactions, and they dont care to give a…

Me too. The headaches. I even avoid movies that might make me tear up. It ruins my day, and sometimes the next day Ill have a hangover from it.

A lot of black guys and other non-waspy cultures do cry. They dont feel its 'feminine' to cry. It has nothing to do with gender, and only to do with perception of gender.

One more thing. "Love" does not cure ills in person, or smooth over a lack of character. "Love" is also the one thing when in bad domestic situations cling to. He loves me, I can change him. Thats exactly what youre saying when you say, 'If someone loves you and you tell them youre a full human being and they dont…

I starred you by mistake. I think youre voice is important though because this is wha women go through all the time with men. Hes getting his way when he pulls this shit, this tempertantrum, and if he thinks that in your relationship that you are always on the make to try and dominate him in any way-such as he calls…

Its not that they dont have the toolkit to understand it. Its that they abhor the feminine and Im sorry, you cant separate it from women. At base they are misogynists, they hate and mistrust women. And i think what is overlooked is that they are projecting their manipulation onto the women by blaming, by using their…

He might not be a sociopath, but you cant argue that he's not unfeeling in those moments where he feels entitled to tell you youre being a manipulative bitch, because that is exactly what he's saying. You dont have feelings and emotions wiith physical reactions, is what hes telling you. He either cant or wont conceive…

Yeah but the sick thing is, I see this attittude/belief in men who Id have otherwise thought were ok. It isnt just MRAs. And if your guy is pulling this shit on you, then at base, he doesnt consider you a full human being with your own emotions and physical reactions. Im sorry, it hurts to know, but its true.I wish…

i saw a deer like that once and it was dead.

right. I read that book too, and it very good. a movie based on that book would have been an excellent movie and much needed at this time. it showed where these people came from, the Dust Bowl was happening, and left Barrows family homeless. They lived beyond hardscabble existence. instead we get this shit and didnt…

i know. im just blaming him bc i hate his movies.