Here’s the thing. With children (and even with adults because some people are indeed incapacitated or paralyzed in fright) being forced doesn’t necessarily mean some sort of physical threat or force needs to be used. The mere dynamic of adult vs. child is the force itself. I started being sexually abused at 3 or 4…

Smif is a self-acknowledged troll. His comments may be salient, but the delivery is just meant to incite. Thank you for the level response to him. If he’s got to come out of the greys, this is the way to respond. You are always a class act. xoxo

Do you think normal men have sex with 12 year olds? Do you think normal, sane men have sex with anyone in the bathroom of a cvs? Do you think normal men take their dicks out in public? This person is disgusting, and a predator.

Seriously, don’t be that girl/guy. Just don’t. Especially if you do not know what you’re talking about, which in your case, you do NOT know what you’re talking about.

Quoting someone else from this thread:

No! No! No! No! She's a child. Do you imagine that there are a lot of super worldly 6th graders?

SHE WAS NOT A FUCKING TEENAGER. AND IT DOES NOT MATTER IF HE DID NOT PIN HER DOWN, HE STILL RAPED HER, PERIOD, END OF FUCKING DISCUSSION.

You are part of the problem. You are exactly like the disgusting cop, and the disgusting rapist. You are all three the same fucking kind of person: Rapists.

Omfg are you fucking serious.

The cop’s attitude is a big reason why men think it’s cool to rape, fyi. IT IS THE SAME ATTITUDE that led to the rape. FULL STOP.

Rape Culture.

Why not both, idiot?

Exactly! I don’t know how he lured her, but I can’t imagine that she thought if she went with him she’d be raped. She's a 6th grader. She probably felt special. Then he gets her alone. I feel so terrible for her. Also, fuck this detective.

Yes. And it happens more than people want to admit, especially with high risk populations for all sorts of socio-psychological reasons. However, and this can't be said clearly enough: There is no situation whatsoever that makes it appropriate, legal, or not-damaging for an adult to have sex with a 12 year old.

A 12 year old may imitate adult behavior, or a child may learn over-sexualized behavior as a result of repeated sexual abuse. That should not be confused with mature sexual desire.

You can’t fuck a baby even if it can say the word yes because babies can’t consent.

Yes, that's what I was thinking as well. It's a crime. The dude is a rapist because of her age and it's disgusting. The girl is a victim. Also, if she was willing to go with the guy, I can understand the cop's awkward phrasing. Probably they should have put more thought into how they made the statement, because - as…

Nevermind that she’s not even a fucking “teenager” — she’s 12 — in what fucked up universe does a much older, strange man coaxing a 12 year-old into a bathroom = “consent”?

What’s more likely here: that a 12 year-old, who just so happened to look 18, also so just happened to run into a romantic stranger who coerced…

Please, in all seriousness, I hope you aren't allowed in public.

Having the strength and courage to address it after so many years of destruction deserves some serious kudos. It is incredible that you were able to listen to the part of you that was still advocating for the goodness you deserved.

Many hugs to you. It took me 30 years but I finally got over it; sure, it changed me in ways I hate, but it doesn't plague me like it did. Never give up. You are stronger than you know. xxoo