I got into a disagreement with a friend of mine recently when I said that I now consider my ex-boyfriend to be quite predatory due to his interactions with his students. He should not be dating them. I don’t care if they’re over the age of consent (although though one of them wasn’t even legally an adult yet), there…

Exactly. What are they supposed to do if they can't meet women at work? Go on one of the US's 2500 dating websites along with 10s of millions of other adults? Ask friends to set them up? Go to a singles bar/normal bar/speed dating/ kickball league/trivia night/soft ball league/ art and painting night/match maker/…

It reminds me of the bit Samantha Bee did: “Now, some guys may say, ‘What, does this mean I can’t even ask a woman out at work?’ And the answer is, ‘Yes. You’re at work.’”

I said “Maybe”. It has nothing to do with him not being the best looking dude or 27 years older than me. It has mostly to do with that he’s a comedian and as someone who has dated two in the past, they’re usually assholes. But if it’s a one night stand... maybe? If he’s funny and cool, sure. But I’ve heard Jon Lovitz…

My husband DOES NOT look like Lovitz, but he is significantly older than me and he’s fat. I don’t like thinking about people’s assumptions, because they’re preposterous and based in tired stereotypes that don’t have much to do with either of us, or why we love each other.

“He’s a little doughy and has a sense of humor. From what I hear that is the best kind of person in bed”

Well, if you consider he’s worked pretty steadily in Hollywood for better than 25+ years then if he lived reasonably and invested wisely it’s pretty easy to see him as a millionaire.

He’s a little doughy and has a sense of humor. From what I hear that is the best kind of person in bed.

Stop. sleeping. with. your students. period. How is this hard????? You should not sleep with people you are teaching and/or have substantial power over. I get it your students are hot 0r whatever. You are a grown ass adult and know better. Stop sleeping with your damn students*

*note: this message is for all teachers,…

OK OK just ignore that he’s a gross human being...we’re talking a one night stand, not marriage.

The thought of one of my college professors inviting me over to cook lunch and discuss the local food scene sounds like an abysmal time.

Ah Professor Not Quite Grabby, I had two of those. The ‘accidentally” brushing up against the female students, and when there was a sexually explicit poem to be read out loud, guess who he with with his affectatious elbow patches called on. I did refuse to read one the poems out loud once, totally threw him for a…

Meh...everything the ‘Important Literary Man’ ever wrote was boring as fuck. Good riddance, I say.

I went to one of the top MFA fiction programs in the United States. Sexism infected the culture and colored both how the professors treated male vs female students and also how we discussed the work.

The duck face is still big with this group.

Rachel Maddow used that exact clip when reporting on this last night.

We put birds on things.

Every time I think we’ve reached peak Portland, something like this happens.