You nailed it with the Pilates story. It seems like it's no longer enough for even fit/athletic people to just do a normal routine and be fit and athletic. If you're not taking the latest class that causes you to run to Facebook and post about how you're pretty sure you're going to literally DIE, then you're not doing…

As a fellow Fat who exercises but doesn't go crazy trying to get thin (I wasted my 20's in that fruitless pursuit), I often find myself wondering if I'm just a "jealous fattie" when I roll my eyes at the constant workout updates of one particular FB friend of mine. She's maniacally obsessed with running and weight…

Why isn't it ever the grandma who should learn to pick battles??? "You can't come out as gay, it would kill grandma!" Well maybe grandma should get with the fucking times. "Grandpa isn't racist he's from another time!" Well grandpa, times have changed. You're an adult, fucking deal with it.

Also if your entire family is so horrified at the idea of going against the patriarchy that they literally self combust, perhaps they seriously need to examine their priorities. It's interesting to me that in your anecdote, it is your feminist cousin who is "the problem" and not the backwards yahoos clutching their…

The only people I know who get huffy about the tradition of the woman taking the man's last name upon marriage are men, yes. I know women who are old fashioned and traditional and fully support the continuing of the custom, but they don't fly off the handle about it. Whereas if you meet someone completely up in arms…

You made an F-troop reference, and I understood it. It's possible we're both old, but I still cracked up.

Yeah, I didn't really have a problem with its lack of Bechdel bonafides, considering it was a remake. I almost wish Julia's character hadn't been in it actually, because the script fails utterly at explaining why Tess would ever have been with Benedict at all, aside from giving Ocean his proper motivation. He doesn't…

New Hampshire is still hanging in there in terms of respectability, at least on the statewide and federal levels. Maggie Hassan is going to win another term as gov, while down in librul old Massachusetts the GOP is likely to re-take the statehouse now that Deval Patrick is stepping down. And everyone knows that the…

Heh, one of the reasons I took my husband's name is that it made no difference—my former name was complicated and I always had to spell it for people, same thing with his name. But I did find his name more "fun" (it's Italian) than my old one too, when I first changed it I found it kind of novel and funny, like…

Well, you're rolling your eyes at a strawman though. I know a handful of women who kept their names for various reasons, and not a single one of them was because of "promoting feminism" or "making a statement" or whatever. But even if it was, it would still be none of your business—and if it's not such a big deal,…

Amen. Plus, what's wrong with "silly" movies anyway? I fucking love Oceans 11, that movie is entertaining as fuck, and I will leave it on whenever I see it on while I am bored and channel surfing. (I am still waiting for my apology on the sequels, which were kind of terrible, but the first one was terrific.)…

I don't think it's all that gross, I mean we've had sex in there together after all. But it was definitely hypocritical!

My husband tried to give me a hard time about being a shower peer but I shut that down by pointing out that he jacks off in the shower and blows his nose too, and how is that different? If anything it's worse! he conceded the point.

I just had a job interview and while I didn't end up getting it (booo) I am very confident it wasn't because I'm pregnant, because I'm very confident no one noticed even though I'm 7 months and was wearing a maternity dress! It is sometimes a bummer to have to tell people flat out that I'm pregnant when I see them…

As an obese woman 30 weeks into my second complication-free pregnancy, I also think there's a fine line to walk between letting people know about risk factors (which, yes there are some, I get it) and needlessly scaring them. The risks are elevated—but that doesn't mean fat women don't have normal healthy pregnancies…

Odd, I've actually heard the opposite about GD—it doesn't matter what you eat, you're going to either get it or you won't. You can't "give yourself" GD. Obese women are at higher risk for it just like they're at higher risk for type 2 diabetes when not pregnant, but it's no guarantee. I didn't get it either time…

Having worked in politics for 16 years, I can tell you I have known at least two dozen openly gay male republicans, including some "big wigs" (K Street types) and only a handful of gay male Dems. This is only anecdotal, of course, but there are pleeeenty of conservative gays out there. Especially the white ones with…

I love that Meredith was slutty, AND that she owned it and her friends didn't look down on her for it. She had a bunch of one nighters during her and mcdreamy's various breakups, and when he gave her shit about it she unleashed the awesome "you don't get to call me a whore" speech on him. Wonderful stuff. And you're…

YES, WHAT IS THE IMPORTANT IDRIS ELBA NEWS? I MUST KNOW!

I think it all depends on all the variables in the diamond industry. Mine is around 1.5 c total weight (1c center stone with very good cut/clarity and about .5 c small diamonds encircling it in a pave setting). It was set in white gold and was $4,500. It's lovely. Most of my friends have bigger stones and/or platinum…