Not irrelevant, but not the point.

I agree completely, but she didn’t acknowledge inequality in asking which correcting it is essential... which is why I raised the point. More women should ask men on dates, men should be ok with being asked. Then whoever asked can pay.

Most relationships aren’t long-term though so I’m not sure what that has to do with anything. We’re not talking about equality in long-term relationships. We’re talking about women asserting their independence on dates in general. Most of those dates will not turn into long-term relationships.

You’re speaking to a topic that you literally have little to no experience on. I’m sure their are feminist issues specific to gay women that you wouldn’t want a straight woman saying how things should be. Being a woman doesn’t entitle you to a valid point of view on everything under the sun.

You’re reading comprehension is hurting a bit. Like I said, it takes acts big and small. Paying for dates obviously won’t end patriarchy alone, but it’s an important act.

It’ll take a lot of acts, big and small, to end patriarchy. Establishing independence from men in day to day life is one such thing.

This x1000. I think paying the bill to see how the man reacts is money well spent. If he can’t deal, instant deal breaker (unless you want a serious fixer-upper).

No one is asking you to or expecting you to weep tears. This has zero to do with men supposedly being hurt by patriarchy. Tracy, a woman, has raised the issue. Women shouldn’t sometimes pay for dates because male hurt feelings, women should sometimes pay for dates to display their independence... because they are…

“was in employment”

I agree with this except we still live at a time where far too many women feel they can’t ask a man out (and too many men feel uncomfortable with being asked out by a woman) thus men end up paying more often. So the problem isn’t quite solved.

So you’re solution to sex-based inequality is to perpetuate it?