A question, if possible: What do you think the women at Khabar Lahariya think of sites like Jezebel? Like, is it odd to them what you report on, or the way you do things, or is it something they want to adapt to be more like, or is it literally two different worlds?

I just want to note this kind of obsessive behavior is not related to men.

That’s not the way it is at my work.

I work my ass off. I’m at work 15-20 minutes early daily (because you have to be ready to work at start time, and it takes about 15 minutes for the computer to log me in and open my profile), and I’m usually at work 15-60 minutes late, daily.

This always makes me wonder what happened to make guys like that? I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs, but like... Seriously? These thoughts have never entered my brain.

There is never a point where this kind of things is acceptable. As a guy, I can’t imagine ever thinking that way. I tend to believe in mitigating circumstances, but there are none for what this man did.

This guy obviously was guilty, I take no issue with that. What does make me question is the whole “lifestyles” thing? Is he naive enough to believe that all these women are cashing in on a payday? Even with all the evidence against him? Did he not realize how it would sound to those hearing/reading about this?

Whoa I wasn’t expecting this many replies. All logical and good advice. The problem in this case was definitely her. The problems stemmed not just from how she felt about sex, but a vast, vast myriad of mental health issues, some of which she was really good at hiding early on.

I think I did the right thing too, but it also sticks with you, kind of a negative voice going “She told me not stop to next time, like 20+ times, but she seemed so sincere when she said stop, and I’ve stopped.. maybe I would’ve had a better result if I hadn’t stopped, maybe that’s what she was trying to get at?”

And that’s only the tip of the ice burg. I’m still sorry it happened to me. It’s more complex, my partner was diagnosed with several mental illnesses, and was transgender as well.

I would say this is a situation for safe words, if your partner doesn’t really get it. Safe word in the sense of, if were not super explicit about consent, cuz relationship and sex comes with that, confusion, and no can mean yes sometimes (if that is the situation for you, if that’s not, no should always be no), just…

Well, I would be surprised if I ever meet someone like that again. I simply got trapped in the “I love this girl, she really has some problems, I need to be extra supportive and understanding.” which translated to “be taken advantage of.”

Just wanted to share my experience on this topic, somewhat related. Hopefully it’ll get ungrayed, because I’d really like some feedback on this.

I agree she did not tell any police, which only makes it slightly less bad. That said, I removed the option for her from doing that by being far away. My concern was more that she would claim abuse/rape, to bolster her self-made stories.

Her claims grew bolder as time passed. She has a lengthy history of using extreme stories, some of which I believe are true, but most which are not, to gain sympathy.

I understand your anger. I read this stuff too, and it seems insane, like why wouldn’t you believe, why wouldn’t you get frustrated at the sheer ludicrousness of it all?

I just wanted to share my point of view here on a related subject. Since people are always commenting on how the focus is on protecting the boys’ future. I think there are a lot of shades of grey on this one.