My (now)husband and I had been dating for about six months and he took me on a very romantic trip to Maui. It was our first time there and we were both having a lot of fun experiencing new things. On one of the days he booked us on a short snorkeling excursion to Molokini a tiny island off the coast. Now I’ve always…

Huh. Like a cross between jail food and stoner food.

Fwiw I’ve noticed that very heavily tattooed people (including myself) are often painfully shy.

Tabasco is my fave above all other hot sauces. SOrry not sorry. I prefer the vinegary salty spiciness on all Italian food, salad, seafood....everything except Mexican food for which I use the bright green el yucateca. But....my taste is questionable- I’m also a huge fan of taco bell’s individual packets of hot sauce.

Not from Sephora but my hg eyeliner is the pixi endless silky eye pen.

I feel like we’re getting down to the meat and potatoes of the issue now. From reading your reply I realized that I’m craving quality time with my husband but he thinks quality time is him watching his shows and me watching with him being attentive to both and I think of quality time as either bedroom time or getting…

Very good points! I may do something like going and sitting at my desk in the other room if I want screen time so that it's a more distinct activity. Thanks for the thoughtful reply!

I know right? Also, holy shit Cocopop! replied to me! :D

Just to clarify- I never have my phone at the table, during a date (unless he draws his first which he does do) or when he has made it clear that he wants my input on something or wants to vent or otherwise have a serious or involved discussion. Also he’s in front of a computer most of the day at work. I’m only online…

I really appreciate how you broke this down into a specific way of interacting. I think I'm getting into trouble here because I'm simultaneously giving him signals that he is welcome to jump in at any time while also not fully giving my attention either. I'm going to really try to apply your method. It seems to be…

Thank you so much! Internet hugs!

Thank you for your very thoughtful reply. Also your folks sound super cute!

Yes I get what you’re saying. In the beginning of our relationship there were some things that made me go “huh”. The first Friday after he became my BOYFRIEND he tried to pick me up for a date without any prior planning. I was like no way dude. Also the time he said “I’ll never treat you like shit like those other…

I don’t mean to deflect responsibility by saying this but I’ve always been the kid who has their head always buried in a book. Then I was a teenager who was super antisocial and always had their head buried in a book. Nobody ever told me it was rude and I always thought that doing something quietly by yourself without…

In the past I've had the phone out during both our tv time but this last time he was just watching one of his shows. I totally get it about driving time though. I've pulled the phone out when he doesn't seem interested in talking but I think I'll put it away from now on. Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

Thank you for your reply! I can relate. My kiddo sometimes gets mad when I don’t watch him play video games. It's pretty cute actually.

Thank you for your honest reply. I appreciate it.

Long time lurker first time poster here. My husband has been expressing displeasure at my phone scrolling lately and I'm feeling both defensive and annoyed about it. I have a habit of scrolling through Instagram or whatever when I'm just relaxing and apparently this makes him feel shut out from me. He doesn't let me…