I put my foot down AND had a perfectly lovely wedding. I'll admit the reception took a dive when my half of the family left 20 minutes in because they were "tired," and the next morning they all talked about the rager they'd had at their hotel and the justification for leaving the reception two songs after the formal…

I disagree. I set a reasonable boundary, and it was ignored. Two extra paragraphs of your personal control issues does not persuade me that I should have handled things differently, and they don't make me feel bad that I stood by my original, well-communicated decision to keep children out of my wedding.

Precisely. I don't give a damn how other people want to run their weddings. They're not mine. Just don't be a dick.

One of my husband's relatives couldn't make it because they couldn't find a sitter. They called a few weeks before to let us know, and it was fine. They had been very positive about having a kids-free weekend and completely understood that is was our party as defined by us.

As hostess, I get to decide the rules of the party. And the rules were clearly stated with plenty of time for people to make arrangements or decide to stay home.

She brought the baby and when I dropped by the hotel on the wedding day to say hi between last-minute stuff, she sprung on me the fact that she'd brought the baby. I had been given no advance notice or warning from anyone.

I assure you, this was a case of "I was required to invite you to not incite family drama." But even if it wasn't, I gave ample warning throughout the engagement about the no kids rule and everyone else on both sides respected it and understood why we preferred to not deal with kids on our day.

Oh, absolutely. If you want to do the whole shebang because it's fun for you, go right ahead. There was just this expectation that I would do it and when I didn't, it was like I'd broken some ancient code or something.

Kinja, whcn I click "cancel," I mean for you to delete the thing. Not post the thing.

My hubby had

I got the same line for my undergrad and master's graduation. My mother tried to get me to send out a huge batch of announcements or invites, and I said, "I don't see why. Tickets are limited. People can't come."

FINALLY. The number of times I went, "Okay, it says gluten-free, and there's nothing on the label that should make it not gluten-free" and then gotten a blinding headache, fatigue, and stomach cramps is probably in the dozens. It hurts like hell, and I have been known to gripe loudly in the middle of the supermarket…

We kept the wedding to immediate family-only because my family is huge, and I didn't want to have to invite 100 first cousins I barely know. We gave everyone ample notice to book rooms at a group rate, and 48 hours before the reservations had to be in, I got a call demanding that I get the hotel to push out the…

And I am again struck by how much I miss Phillip Seymour Hoffman.

I'm not 100% sure what's collected, but here's the link to comic vine that has her appearances listed. And I completely forgot she got fridged during an event. Crap. But she really is great! http://www.comicvine.com/big-barda/4005…

Barda is my current favorite. She ran a special ops group of all-female soliders known as the Female Furies when she lived on Apokolips, where she was born and raised. She then went to Earth to track down Scott Free (Mr. Miracle), who had escaped their planet, and she finds she does not want to return to Apokolips,…

I believe Netflix is tackling at least part of that storyline in their Jessica Jones limited that's going to fit with the Iron Fist, Power Man, and Daredevil limiteds they're also doing.

The current Ms. Marvel comic is about a young woman who was inspired by Carol Danvers to become a superhero. Carol was, of course, inspired by the original (male) Captain Marvel, but it's a start. Also, in Runaways, they're all first generation street-level superheroes who get their powers from their evil parents, but…

That sound amazing. Might I suggest the Spider-Man Noir mini where she is not quite that badass but is a pro-socialist social reformer in 1930s New York?

From the Latin, meaning "snake oil."