I remember her saying, “yeah, so sorry that the LOSS OF MY WANTED PREGNANCY and the procedures that go along with it were inconvenient for them. I should have done a better job of LOSING MY BABY over a weekend instead of on a Tuesday."

My cousin was lectured for not giving enough notice for her miscarriage.

I remember thinking it wasn’t fair when I was little that my friend Jon got to go into the girl’s bathroom with his mom at the pool, and my dad never took me into the boy’s bathroom.

Yeah, to me it reads like, “wtf why is this a thing, who even really cares.” Like he doesn’t know much about the transgender community but he also isn’t a dick about it. Any ignorance comes from lack of exposure, not a place of hate.

Well now I wish I were trans...

I feel like anything after the literal medical procedures at fertility clinics is superstition+it can’t hurt even if it doesn’t help.

We did 3 retrievals last year, when I was 29, my third year trying. 1st one - nothing stuck. 2nd one - nothing stuck, but it was all terrible so we didn’t expect it to. 3rd retrieval - better outcomes as far as eggs/embryos, but on the verge of OHSS.

You know who relaxing works for?

I am STILL PREGNANT with my first, and more than one person besides my MIL has asked me when we’ll start trying for a second.

I mean, I’m GLAD I got pregnant, ecstatic. But I wish I still has to see him 3 times a week. He was the best.

Haha yup. My husband complained to the doctor once that the free Wi-Fi blocked all the ... ahem ... fum websites, and the regular service was bad, which made giving his part very stressful.

My doctor said it’s probably because the stimulation portion of your cycle is so physically taxing, while frozen transfers only involve like 2-3 medications - suppositories and oral. I think my cycles where we retrieved, I was on anything from 6-10 different medications - injectable, oral, and suppositories, PLUS egg…

Thank you!

Good luck! It sucks so hard, but when it works, I’m told it’s very worth it! (I’ve had a pretty easy pregnancy so far, minus awful morning sickness for the first 4 months, so knock on wood it stays that way!) Let me know if you have any questions - we did multiple IUIs before moving on to IVF. We got ridiculously…

You don’t know if an egg is going to work until it’s fertilized. You get less of them per cycle than you’ll get sperm. Also, freezing doesn’t guarantee it will defrost, so if you freeze all of them, but almost all of them are stinkers, you might also damage the ones that could have become embryos. My clinic has (as of…

Yes! My mom would be like, “don’t say that,” but there were no consequences, she didn’t get madder than expressing she’d prefer we wouldn’t use that particular word. Where my brother called one of us a “faget” (he wrote it on our bedroom door) and was punished. It was easy to stop saying “gay” because my best friend…

Yes, that was the other thing! I confess that I am still in the process of eliminating retarded from my vocabulary (it’s hard! I’m working on it, and I say it very rarely as it is), and hearing that was so JARRING, because when I do accidentally say it, I feel such shame, and they were just so casual about saying it.

I felt the same way the last time I watched Bring It On. It wasn’t maliciously homophobic, but they made more than one gay joke that I WASN’T comfortable with.

Also, even if they HAD the resources for public restroom gender checks, that is a disgusting invasion of privacy.

My MIL started dating my FIL - and left home to move in with him - when she was 15 and he was 23. They’re somehow still together. She tells it like it’s this sweet love story, but he always looks uncomfortable when she does. He definitely recognizes how lucky he is that he didn’t get in serious trouble. I feel bad for…