This is in the US, not Germany. It doesn't work that way in our country, which is why Americans are always complaining about health care.
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The only people I've encountered that seemed to have the right of it with BDSM contracts are A. the ones who intentionally create contracts with the idea that they will be broken and someone will get punished, like a bad-cop scene for lawyers. B. the legal-eagle types who channel at least part of their scene through…
Yes, like I said I'm biased because I've heard too many stories (both in the news and BDSM scenes) of contracts being used to revoke consent and enforce abusive dynamics. I can see them being helpful in terms of clarifying roles and responsibilities, but I haven't seen them actually play out that way often enough in…
Exactly. The whole point of a contract seems to be revoking the right to consent or negotiation, and while that might result in harmless kinky fun for some people, I don't trust all these asshole "doms" running around not to use them to facilitate abuse.
I have nothing against BDSM or kink but the concept of slave contracts has always squicked me out. Thank you for articulating why. It seems like the whole point is to remove the option of negotiation, so if the sub resists or tries to say no to something, the dom can be all, "hey, you signed the contract." That may…
It's the contracts that run all day every day that are the most disturbing. And the odds that this contract had any sort of "time off" factor, a listed right of the Slave to refuse if things go too far, or mention of safe words in it? Just kidding, the odds of winning the lottery are WAY better.
It doesn't sound like it was ever really all that consensual. It sounds like he was a controlling, abusive fucker who slowly ramped his way up to the point where she wanted him to stop, then abused her into signing the contract that would help to keep her from leaving.
No, you can't just walk into an emergency room and ask the folks to teach you how to use your insulin pump. At the very least, you have to make an appointment with a diabetic educator. And in the meantime, how are you going to manage your diabetes without going into a coma? They don't give pumps to people unless their…
People who do the whole M/s thing 24-7 creep me the fuck out.
People who slow down on roads to gawk at accidents are also curious. That doesn't give their curiosity some kind of moral weight.
beyond the "slave" contract - which, as I understand from people into BDSM here, is totally anti everything the BDSM community stands for (ie, the 'slave' has the control and the final say over what is and is not appropriate/acceptable) - beyond the horrific notion that he was controlling her medication to the point…
Sadly, there is a long history of "slave contracts" being used to gaslight an abuse victim. The contracts generally say that the slave consents to any behavior by the master; then if she complains, he pulls out the contract and reminds her that she consented. There have been a few kidnapping victims who were abused,…
Cannot star this comment enough. I don't know if it is the influence of the Internet age or that fucking Fifty Shades of Grey shit, but in my experience the number of guys calling themselves "Doms" who have NO FUCKING CLUE about this has just exploded.
The worst part, though, is that, even when you do call, the authorities don't/can't always do anything. When I was in college, I heard a really intense, violent sounding fight happening in the stairwell outside my room. I called campus security, but when I couldn't tell them which "room" the couple was in, they…
As an ICU nurse, my anger focuses not only on the abuse and sadness of how she was treated but his dominance with her insulin pump. Diabetics on insulin pumps are walking a delicate line even when they have full control since fluctuations and critical values can happen in the most basic conditions, such as too much…
There is no manner in which it would be appropriate to ask such a question.
The control of the diabetes medication is really frightening. I assume she must have been diagnosed during the course of her relationship if she didn't know how to use the pump herself. I can only imagine the sick glee he must have felt when he had the doctor teach him how to do it, knowing how much power he was…
When police asked her why she didn't leave him earlier, she stated that 1) she loved him and that 2) he took care of her—Harden controlled her diabetes medication and never taught her how to use her insulin pump.
She is an incredibly brave woman and I admire her strength in getting herself out of that horrible situation. It isn't an easy thing to do.