The AV Club review does a better job than I do re: explaining the female gaze in that episode: http://www.avclub.com/tvclu… referencing concepts mentioned by other commenters. :)

Watching the sex scenes in "Game of Thrones" vs. Outlander (season 1 episode 7) would be a really good primer for male gaze vs female gaze in filming. Basically what the camera focuses on is a substitute POV. So in Outlander (spoilers!) we see the camera lingering on the face of the hero the first time he gets a BJ,…