I don’t think they necessarily need to have clearly told you. In some situations it’s implied, like if you’re a couple and another couple invites you two to vacation with them at their holiday home for a week.

Yup. I couldn’t believe it until I went to Walmart thinking that I could get a bunch of sport socks. They were made of rubber and rayon, without even a hint of cotton.

And the weirdest thing was when I noticed that Banana Republic has silk shirts for $80 (regular price).

So I can spend $80 on a silk shirt that will…

Also a redditor. It’s not all a cesspool, but there are definitely dark corners that are easily accidentally accessed.

I also think the “Dismiss” function here is marvelous and truly an improvement in Internet commenting. Honestly one of the things Kinja absolutely got right.

UPDATE! My MIL just texted me and there’s a bridal shower! And this is her FOURTH marriage. It’s Sunday. I can’t wait to hear about it.

It can be, depending on the charity being donated to and the gift being objected to. Like when one of my cousins asked for no gifts but just cash (not even checks, these people, but cash) to go towards their “on-foot sightseeing trip through mountain country” as their honeymoon. We all got together and put together a…

WTF no. I was once invited to a shower for a wedding I wasn’t invited to. I’m sure that there is a chance the friend/family member/whoever planning the shower got confused* but I was like FUCK NO. Then someone a week later was like, “it seems your wedding invite got lost in the mail!” and this was like, one week…

Almost certainly, no one over 35 needs to have a registry. Unless both parties have been living with their respective parents for all that time, in which case they should also register for some life coaching.

Key thing about the work shower: you don’t throw it for yourself. Like, listen, Tiffany, I understand why I wasn’t invited to your wedding, because we only work together and sort of hate each other and I think you’re a gaping asshole, but don’t throw yourself a work shower and then bitch when I don’t come. You only…

I got invited to a wedding via a text message pic of the actual wedding invitation, about 2 weeks before the wedding.

I have a cousin who did that. Whoever threw the shower invited all of her friends and family at my cousin’s request, but only her parents, a couple of aunts/uncles, and her siblings were invited to the wedding. The same wedding that I had helped her plan, mind you, because she had loved everything I had done to plan…

A close friend’s older sister (who everyone but said friend agrees is the worst human ever) invited 15 of her sister’s friends to her shower so it would be “fun.” We weren’t invited to the wedding (we SHOULDN’T have been invited to the wedding!), and since it was an obvious gift grab, we all declined without sending a…

She called me yesterday to work out what to say on the card. “We’ve donated to XYZ Charity on you and new husband’s behalf, because we figured you two already have everything you need! Love, Stitty and Stitty’s MIL”

I had to bite my tongue through my sister-in-law’s tacky and rude handling of her shower and wedding invite lists. My mother-in-law’s family is large and very close, but my SIL only invited one set of aunts/uncles to the wedding. But she made a huge deal out of wanting EVERYONE in the family at her shower. And could…

NOPE. You only invite people to the shower who are invited to the wedding. If you choose to have a small wedding, then you’re making the choice to not have those big events leading up to the wedding. You don’t get to have it both ways.

There are really only three absolute etiquette rules for wedding showers:

Morons. I cut through a J Crew to reach a Uniqlo across the street from my office and the clothing I see in the store is just atrocious. Incredibly thin fabrics, bizarre patterns and nothing you could feasible wear to work. I picked up cute red plaid scarf during the winter and nearly threw it away like a snake when I…

Oh definitely. the Shifting her weight stuck out to me like a sore thumb. There was an agenda at work here.

This! I had a coworker plan are really pretty, very intimate destination wedding. NBD until she gushed and gushed about how it was just her closest friends and family, but then wanted all of us gals to attend her shower so badly that she CHANGED THE DATE to a weekend we could all go. And then on top of it, it was a…

I actually met and did a photoshoot with Tess a little over a year ago, when she started her body positive photoshoot “roadshow” thing. (Yes, I paid for the shoot, I’m not in any way a model.) I found her to be really disingenuous, and none of this surprises me. She was pleasant enough but seemed to be super annoyed…