I'm pretty relieved to hear all this, though I have my fingers crossed not to be in that situation again (doing well enough now to be able to buy decent gifts or give a nice little sum of cash).

This is sort of how I feel about my wedding. When two of our friends recently got married, we were invited and they asked us to help set up the dining hall (they took us out to dinner twice for our trouble, too!) We wondered where their registry was, but it wasn't on the invitation or their website. We ended up giving…

I feel for you. That's way more of a conundrum than I was in. I say send the gift you can, and maybe a nice letter or a long note in a card wishing them well (and noting that you hope to see them when they travel to your coast sometime?). I wouldn't mention that finances got in the way, because I wouldn't want to make…

Well, the TV took a hockey team and their gfs/fiances/wives to pitch in on, so there were over 30 of us in on it.

I should clarify it's separate invites for the whole day (family, close friends) and additional for the drinking/dancing (acquaintances you want to party with). Nobody gets uninvited midway or only invited to the ceremony.

Yeah... If you're going to make people travel, you have to invite them to the whole thing. That's pretty crappy. You have to make it clear that reception-only guests shouldn't bring gifts (as many have pointed out, "cards appreciated" doesn't cut it, so I agree with others suggesting "no gifts, please.") and if you're…

I wouldn't un-invite anyone from the reception! More like the fiance's hockey team would be invited to the drinking/dancing part of the night, but not the ceremony.

In my city in Canada this is pretty standard. A lot of people invite family and close friends to the ceremony, then invite the hubby's hockey team, coworkers, etc. to the drinking/dancing portion of the night. Some people (especially non-religious) even do family-only ceremonies and just have friends come to the…

What stacyinbean said. I see you point about them not knowing gifts are unneccessary, so maybe for the reception invites I'll make it a clear little note at the end, like "Please, no gifts."

I would invite family and close friends to the ceremony, but friends I'm less close to to the reception. I definitely think making it clear gifts are not expected is important. I dunno... so many of my friends have done this, and I still plan on doing it. To each their own, I guess?

Ooh! Question (this happened to me years ago): What if you didn't think you'd make the wedding invite cut because you aren't super close, but you do. You're a broke college couple (like sharing-a-bachelor-apt-and-eating-ramen broke). Your friends are older, established in their careers, and know this about you. You…

These suggestions are weird! And I'd never send someone an un-invitation.

I've tried on similar styles before with little luck, but I really like the look of that one for some reason. I may have to try to find it in stores. Thanks!

I'm in good shape, but I'm shaped like a jelly bean from the side (little boobs that flatten right out in swimsuits, little belly that usually sticks out more than my boobs). I usually wear a bikini because it breaks up the bean shape. I wish I could wear one pieces. I hate all swimsuits.

Um, no. Every woman has been turned down at some point. Often by those she lusted after the most. This entitled attitude is something most people get past as an adolescent. You learn that just because you "really love" someone, you're still not entitled to have that feeling reciprocated.

Please please please don't assume that every Jez commenter is as much of a bag of shit as RW.

The most entitled douchebags think they're untouchable. I hate to say this, but I know a lot of guys who joked about rape in HS, but never about a real human being in a real incident. And never to this degree. Beyond the fact that he's proven himself subhuman, he's gone on for-fucking-ever and it wouldn't be funny…

It's not a sports thing. Don't be an ass.

They're not too young, just too shitty. A few people in that room were countering him throughout the video. Others were laughing with him. Guess which ones are decent human beings.

Bravo on putting this list together. I'd like to see this on the front page of every newspaper and website on Women's Day. Sad and shameful that so many are ignorant to the state of things.