US domestic abusers are very hard to get and keep in jail. From a survivor.

Can I ask what you did to fix/manage your insomnia?

Actually, you really only have to worry about today. :) You can worry about tomorrow tomorrow. I know the ‘one day at a time’ thing sounds like a Hallmark card, but it really helps the process not feel like a huge, unfixable issue.

Fellow writer and alcoholic. I resisted getting help for a loooong time—-and it really negatively affected my work. (Also, going to AA or something like it will help you with your pride problem, and in my experience pride is not great for the writing and revising process.)

Abusers are often charismatic at the outset. The red flags start small and grow. There are crocodile tears and apologies and promises. It gets more when money, kids, and pets are involved. People can’t always just leave.

Is it terrible that I sort of want to know who this woman is so I can go visit the crazy on her FB page?

You definitely have not dated my ex.

Worse— a woman’s groooosssss lady parts.

It’s pussy. Don’t you know the worst insult for a man is to be equated to a woman’s genitals?

Keep her in your life! ALL my friends have kids—some in college, some under 1—and most of them have multiples. I decided not to take this personally early on and have made an effort to keep in contact with them even if we see each other once or twice a year. Now that many of the kids are older, I find my mom-friends…

Same—PTSD and love horror movies. There is a theory that people who have suffered Trauma with a capital-t can develop counterphobia—where one goes toward scary things, as opposed to fleeing from them. (Freud’s related idea was repetition compulsion.) In my case, I am very much drawn to revenge narratives—think…

Has she gone to her local Domestic Violence Court? DV people will have resources to help her—not sure which area she is in. If she has extensive, visible injuries getting an Emergency Restraining Order—for herself, her partner, her kid, any pets—should not be a problem.

*their*

I went to college in NC and, while I was too young to vote my freshman year, there were thousands of fliers up on campus about Jesse Helms. I remember one specific quote—women who are raped CANNOT get pregnant because ‘they’re juices don’t flow’.

She was more than just a socialite. Nancy Mitford wrote a great biography if that’s kind of the thing you like to read.

I am very pettily glad he was arrested in front of a bunch of people, on Christmas Eve, ‘ruining’ his sister’s wedding. While I do think it’s possible that some families truly do not know about the disgusting, violent things their kids/siblings/parents/cousins do, I find it very difficult to believe that someone who…

It is COMPLETELY about it being your job/responsibility to make sure they don’t have hurt feelings about being an abusive addict.

Why not just wash off/away the offensive layer, and carry on? (Grew up with a bunch of sibs, serious question.)

He has a long history of supporting them.

Which frat is that? (Not being snarky.)