I schedule times to “straight fucking chill” i.e. no homework, no work work, no chores, no stressful social situations. I have to do it for at least half an hour or so before bed or I can’t sleep, but I’ll also occasionally dedicate myself to bonding with my couch and watching Netflix for most of a day.

I have no words of wisdom on this, just empathy for you. This happened to me in a long term relationship years ago. It turned out that we were generally not on the same page about how relationships and communication worked best for us and we broke up.

Mostly it seems cruel of your significant other to keep hanging out with that person one-on-one when affections are so unidirectional.

I totally disagree. There are lots of people I should be able to spend one-on-one time with and there are lots of people I want my husband to have one-on-one time with who are not me. I don’t think it matters whether you’re single or not or whether the other person is single or not. And it certainly isn’t dictated by…

True sentiment, but I’m distracted by how cute that kid is. I want to give him a box of crayons and jump rope with him and Grover on Sesame Street.

There’s an interview with Julie Klausner, Billy Eichner, and Amy Poehler about their show, Difficult People. The interviewer asks who they think is making amazing television that they want to emulate. Billy Eichner says he watches her and she’s doing amazingly. He just thinks she’s so happy and enthusiastic to be on…

More socially acceptable now than ever for people to call parenting stressful and not rewarding? Most socially acceptable for middle-class white people to complain because they won’t be thrown the “if you can’t afford to have kids, you shouldn’t have them” thing that internet commenters say about poor people?

Stassa, I hate to be this pedantic, but your KJ math is wrong. If she just turned 60 this year, she wouldn’t have been celebrating her 20th birthday in 1985, which was 30 years ago.

tips for looking good in your dress on your big day: buy a dress you can eat, drink, and dance in. a, you’ll look happy from the fun, and b, if you can eat, drink, and dance in it, it’ll probably forgive time’s march toward death.

I vote no to Ken Burns. I refuse to worship at the shrine of the Civil War or slowly zoom in (or out!) of any more sepia-toned photographs of frowning people.

...so much crying about the diner closing 20 minutes before I thought to get pancakes.

I have no experience or knowledge (really should be a disclaimer on everything I say), but I’d imagine that there are several reasons to have a custody battle besides child endangerment: 1. All details and divisions need to be communicated. 2. You’re divorcing, so likely you didn’t communicate with your spouse well…

Did any one think he was drinking Jagermeister responsibly? One only drinks Jagermeister while drinking excessively.

I know you were joking and that that fight likely isn’t real (“Seriously” at the beginning was meant in contrast). I was just feeling mouthy and found a place to mouth off. If I had some of their garage tequila, I would probably calm down and take a nap. Possibly forever.

Seriously though, I CARE about public policy on a professional and spending-thousands-of-dollars-on-graduate-school level, but that doesn’t mean i want to talk about it all day every day, especially while on a beach vacation (they were in Cabo). Things I want to discuss on a beach vacation: beer, swimming, napping,…

But Cruel Intentions 2 stars Amy Adams before she took acting lessons! Watching that back to back with Doubt brings so much joy. Don’t destroy or ignore it, just disregard its relation to the first one and let it be what it is: a hilarious look into Amy Adams’s early film career.

I wonder a little about sex type vs dating type. Sure, attraction supposedly gets you in the door, but given how few out-of-tribe people you’re often exposed to in an interactive way, to get more association and not just “replace unattractive with sexual objectification” you’d need the representation elsewhere besides…

Ding ding ding. Women had like 2 dresses, men had 1 or 2 suits. You had more undershirts, maybe. Things were patched. Life was dirtier. Low-res, black and white pictures from afar don’t necessarily capture all the little stains, darned spots, and patch jobs.

tall and/or skinny girls in well-constructed bathrooms can do it because it’s less jumping and more just perching and they’re less afraid of it not holding their weight. also: it helps if you have a proper vanity rather than just a sink with a pipe coming out of the bottom.

I’m sure the whole day was appalling, and I’m firmly on PP’s side in this milieu of awful, but: