It’s a less prevalent argument, but some would maintain that chronic, ongoing cheating is abusive, as it takes away the other partner’s ability to make consensual choices about their sexual health - for example, if they believe they’re in a monogamous relationship and typically have unprotected sex with their partner,…

I’m from Dallas and live in Austin. Waco is my personal hell. I was coming back from Thanksgiving at my parents’ in Dallas my first year in Austin, when a semi crashed on I35, spilling food everywhere. A crane was sent in to pick up the food, then proceeded to fall on a fire truck. I35 was shut down for hours that…

I’ve fought with my parents on this point so many times. They occasionally have children visiting their house, but refuse to lock up every single gun, including the one on top of the refrigerator. They think there’ll never be a time that a visiting kid is unsupervised or able to get to it. If you’re not responsible…

Worst part is that leaving is the most dangerous time of an abusive relationship. Nearly 75% of domestic violence homicides occur during the attempt to leave or within the first two years after, because abusers will rapidly escalate to regain power and control. Whenever I see a story about another one, I usually…

Same presumption of innocence extended to troubled young men known for their dry wit and deep thoughts terrorists like Mark Conditt.

I can’t get over the eight days APD spent operating under racist assumptions, the eight days they could have been investigating and racing to stop the bombs that took Draylen Mason’s life and injured his mother and Esperanza Herrera. And I’m angry every time I think about law enforcement describing how terrible it…

It seems like a bit of a stretch to presume there are three unconnected individuals who are all equally proficient at bomb making and evading detection. It seems more likely to me that it’s one individual with a lot of expertise and currently somewhat murky objectives - I feel like he’s showing off how much he can do,…

YES came here to say that I desperately want to make that crab omelet but I know it won’t be anywhere near as good.

They labeled House’s death as merely “suspicious” and didn’t consider it a homicide up until the second explosion. I’m infuriated that they had ten fucking days to start investigating but were content to think this man blew himself up on his own porch. I’d like to think they were trying to avoid a panic or making the…

I went through a period of intense religiosity in college after I’d ended an abusive relationship. I had always been passionate about my faith, but I got sucked into a local megachurch that is artificially modern (concert-style worship, mostly young members, conversant with pop culture) and deeply conservative. It’s…

I was curious about this yesterday and read a couple articles written about the parents, whose neighbors and acquaintances, black and white, all stated that they never saw any evidence of racism on their part. They described both parents as relating to everyone pretty equally, and that the dad stuck around the…

I’m also a naturalized citizen and have zero cookies to award this morning. Thousands of international adoptees like myself are at risk of getting deported (and some have been) because some of them had adoptive parents who didn’t complete the naturalization process for them upon their adoption (unlike mine,…

“A stun belt is a device meant to ensure physical safety; it is not an operant conditioning collar meant to punish a defendant until he obeys a judge’s whim,” she continued. “This court cannot sit idly by and say nothing when a judge turns a court of law into a Skinner Box,electrocuting a defendant until he provides…

I live and grew up in Texas. A white friend of mine moved to Oregon recently, and seems extremely confused when I suggest that racism isn’t necessarily better (better as in, less entrenched) in Portland. I mean, don’t get me wrong, Texas is fucked up. I just tend to think that everywhere in the US is pretty fucked up.

It’s definitely not. I attended a megachurch in college that preached that couples are not to divorce for any reason, including infidelity or abuse. A woman whose partner is abusing her and/or her children is “allowed” to separate and seek legal action, but she ultimately should be seeking the restoration of her…

I like this photo of Michelle’s portrait - this is the brightest I’ve seen floating around, unsure how close it is to the real thing though:

I could eat dolsot bibimbap any day of the week, but it’s especially satisfying when I’m recovering from a hangover.

Yeah, I’m pretty appalled by how chill a lot of commenters are today about sterilization and treating our history as a brief aside meriting no further discussion. Coercive/forced sterilization is always going to target the most vulnerable, mostly women - mostly of color, and mostly poor (God forbid a man ever be…

Ugh, that’s gross. No one in my church would have explicitly taught that self-esteem is bad or sinful, but I spent most of my life believing that any good in me came from God, and all the bad, every failure, was the result of my inherently sinful nature. It’s pretty destructive shit to internalize.

I totally agree. Adoption narratives are too often centered around the voices of adoptive parents, rather than adoptees, and that’s a huge problem.