This is, sadly, exactly the point, though: it’s called “opportunity hoarding.” Those in power don’t want working class people to get these valuable positions; they want to give them all to family, friends, cronies—fellow upper middle class types—those who can afford to take an important, low-wage position while…

Somewhat of a tangent, but down here in Mississippi our Democrat (really!) Attorney General is trying to overturn a rule that says you can’t collect your state employee’s retirement benefits and serve in the state legislature at the same time. Our state legislators get something like $23k a year, which certainly not…

It’s always funny to me how they don’t want to pay people fairly, but also, they don’t want people on food stamps or using welfare. It’s like they can’t connect the two things and realize that not paying people is a direct cause of people being on welfare.

Since I might as well name names, Nancy Pelosi offered a friend of mine $20k (before taxes!) for an entry level position. In 2015. My friend could not take it. Some college grad who had monetary help from family did.

There isn’t anything unprofessional about it. There isn’t anything unprofessional about any hair type. If your hair is clean and cared for, people need to myob. No one should be forced to put chemicals and all that other shit in their hair to please someone else. White supremacy in the hair industry is rampant. It’s a…

Absolutely. My abuser broke my things, destroyed my stuff, threw my things out and all about the house. I didn’t know until I was out that I found out this was a form of abuse as well.

A recent study found that individuals feel less willing and less obliged to intervene in a situation involving a Black woman at risk of sexual assault

Thanks for your reply! Given the situation, I think you were 100% right to do what you did. It was non-confrontational but still a clear affirmation of your position in a non-political way. Thanks again for writing back. I think it’s a good example for people to see about how to engage when these situations happen.…

Anybody can swing an arm back or turn too sharply and bang into somebody; I’ve done it, everybody has. That is “accidental.” And it’s usually pretty damn obvious to both parties.

I have a hard time accepting the “in the moment I couldn’t think of anything to say” response anymore from men. It’s not that hard to say “I disagree,” which is exactly what Deleted said he did. It doesn’t have to be a snappy comeback or a zinger or anything, just make clear that you don’t agree.

Not in the least bit, I’m glad these people are sharing their stories. It’s all about making yourself better and correcting mistakes. Not taking offense to it at all, I came across naive and didn’t think of the results of my actions. Not in the least bit bothered. If anything I’m happy that I’m getting feed back…

I had a conversation with my dad a few years ago where I tried to explain that him throwing stuff when I was kid but “missing on purpose” was not the exculpatory reasoning he thought it was.

Here’s the thing - when we only expect bad acts from “monsters” it allows the regular people who commit such acts to keep getting away with it. Because these people aren’t monsters. They’re people. They’re nice to their friends and colleagues, they’ve held the door open for little old ladies, they’ve helped a buddy…

Punching someone 20 times takes actual, sustained physical effort. Anyone who characterizes that as a “mistake” or an “accident” can GTFO. 

I’m curious. What did you do in response to him? I’m assuming by your presence on a site like Jezebel, that you would consider yourself a feminist or an ally or some such. Did you tell him you disagreed and found his views abhorrent? Or did you just stay silent? I hope you said something. My experience with male…

This does make sense, I was using it more as an example. Of if you have an anger problem to do other things but yes that can be scary and in fact can be a form of abuse as well.

I’m just going to gently second what mocena said. I’ve been with a guy who hit walls and threw things when he was angry. The first thought it my mind was not reassurance that he knew putting hands on someone else was wrong, it was that putting hands on someone else (me!) would/could be next. It was terrifying. Lashing…

Some consider threatening a partner with violence to be physical abuse, not just emotional abuse.  Like, getting shit thrown at you, even if you aren’t hit by it, counts as physical abuse.  I’m so sorry you had to live through that.  

this ^^^^^ i had a boyfriend who never hit me and i dont think he would have but he would often punch walls and throw/break things when he was upset with me and i was in the room and it is emotional abuse and it is scary as fuck.

Listen, I don’t know you and I don’t know when you are punching walls, but I want you to know this: even if YOU “know” you’d never hit a woman, if you are punching walls when you get angry and your partner is in the room, you are being fucking abusive and scary.  My ex used to punch walls when he got angry with me and…