It's not a dick move. In other places besides the messed up USA system, restauranteurs charge the actual cost of what it takes to operate their restaurant. Instead of the USA where there is a culture that they give you things "for free" it ends up coming out short elsewhere. Their servers make a living wage most…

The shelter in my area won't adopt out to me because I'm unmarried (and, I suspect, because I'm queer - there was a question on the adoption form when I tried.) Now i'm only considering getting a pet from a breeder, because they will take my money whereas a shelter won't, and it's not because I have an inadequate home…

Yeah, breed advocates tend to be horrible cranks. My local shelter wouldn't let me adopt a dog because I'm not married. "You might get married someday to someone who doesn't like the dog." Discrimination at its finest. I live in a great house with backyard and work from home a lot and have a reasonable income;…

I hear you, that's all totally real.

That story is amazing... but if you are not white it is even more amazing. I'm laughing so hard I'm crying!

What the hell? You ever tried to talk to her about classism, and relations to working class professions? Sounds like she could use some intersectionality with that feminism.

Oh yeah that's a variation on a classic red flag. Like the people who are always accusing you of cheating are almost certainly cheating on you. They "know" you are cheating because they can't imagine NOT cheating.

First off... not only do they not believe the Holocaust happened, but that's so important to them, they had to announce it first thing.

Second... you can see photographs, video, and talk to people who are still alive and lived through the Holocaust. What the fuck?

As a teenager, I dated a rockabilly guy who tried to pull this "I don't get into cars made past 1965" bullshit, but when I was like "It's either this 1998 Saturn or you're taking that 1992 city bus" he got right on in.

Was he asking because he wanted to show you his, or because he was grossed out if you'd been with a black guy? Because while the first one is corny and presumptuous, the racism of the second one is worse.

"When you marry me, you won't have to be an [my career of choice that I love and have spent years developing] anymore!"

BYE BYE DUDE

I'm less confused by why he'd allow it, than why she'd do it.

Even as a police abolitionist, I have to give you a high five for this. That dude did not see it coming. And it was amazing.

I want to know how he SMELLED them? Like did he walk up to a group of workers and sniff pit? What?

That has got to be as bad as dudes who message you with a list of their camera equipment, or aggressively asking about your camera equipment, so they can hit on you by way of telling you that their gear is better and more expensive than your gear. My best experience was some guy telling me he'd like to show me how a…

The OP didn't only specify "I prefer to date only people who are entirely separated from their parents' finances and shelters," the OP also said "all adults who live with their parents or have financial support are clearly emotionally stunted losers."

Oh no, I read it. The OP blanketly says that adults - all adults - who live with their parents or have financial support from their parents are inherently losers and emotionally damaged.

I guess some hate it, some don't. Our family was like that too. Five people sleeping in the room during family get-togethers doesn't sound bad to me (we did it), depending on who the five people are. Given that any family is likely to have its assholes and flatulence sufferers it definitely has opportunities to be…

Awwww dang. I had a very parallel experience myself. I was raped in my foyer while unlocking my door after I walked home from the subway, I suppose the rapist followed me. He told me not to scream or he'd kill me and raped me standing up by lifting my dress and pushing my face against the door so I couldn't see him.…

First off - "American" society? WHICH American society? Because I'm describing many, many, many people who are American, with varied cultural backgrounds. I'm also talking as an American, born and raised. We have this thing called "immigrants" and "cultural communities" here in 'Murica. They are Americans.