Spend your first wedding anniversary planning a do-over for like your 5th. And don’t invite anyone who causes drama (or just do the two of you and your best buds). Then your wedding anniversary can be about looking forward, instead of remembering the awfulness that was? And after the 5th one you can have that one. OR,…

Ah I wish I would’ve done this with my mother on our wedding day! And exactly as you said, she wasn’t any different than how she’s always been. I guess I assumed naively since it was *my* wedding day that she would be kinder and more supportive. It actually made my husband and I’s relationship stronger as he had never…

Weddings are exercises in diplomacy that we can all take part in! Face it, there are some times in life when we can’t just yell “fuck it” and stamp out in a dramatic huff (and, as both my parents were actors, I grew up with way too much of that). We were living in a roachy apartment at the time, and had no way to pay…

Here’s the thing: toxic people are going to be toxic UNTIL THE DAY YOU DIE. They’re not just mean. And they don’t change.

There’s so many variables to consider that make it extremely hard *not* invite even terrible mothers. For me, there were these factors (a) she is still married my father, who I love and wanted to be there (b) my extended family members don’t know about our difficult relationship, and assume she is a “great mom”*, etc,…

Girlfriend and I are expecting to get married in the next couple years (yes we’ve talked about it, I just haven’t proposed yet). And both of our stance on it is sort of:

I can’t wait to have a wedding for the sole purpose of not inviting my mother.