I almost wish slave owners had been equal parts every race so we could discuss the after-effects of the institution of slavery without someone whining about blaming white people.

well, we also don't know if he has dated black women in the past. Maybe he had great experiences with them, that ultimately ended, and it just so happened that his next love interest was half white half japanese. She just might kick that much ass, and they might just make a great power couple (as they seem to).…

Sure have. It's also the same reason I date older men. Classic daddy issues. My dad is a dark skin Puerto Rican, but identifies as black because of his skin color and adoptive family. I crave the father figure I never had. So, shut the fuck up and have a stadium of seats. Thanks.

It is a discussion that should be had, especially concerning beauty standards, visibility, and dating habits, but when a couple is already married and has multiple kids together, then shoving them under the spotlight and demanding justification does nothing but delegitimize both their relationship and their children.…

one black woman's thoughts:

he didn't address it because his blog is called "Daddy Doin' Work" not "The Cultural Devaluation of Black Women In Contemporary American Society"... (by the way, I kinda find the fact that you're white and made that comment more than a little insulting)

here's an idea, why don't YOU start…

you're right that the discussion does need to be had, but it just doesn't need to be had here or on this man's blog which is about fatherhood not the place of black women in contemporary American society...

The question should really be "why are so many men turning away from black woman" — regardless of race. Of course there is the expectation that people should like or at least not be prejudiced against "their own," but I don't think one can let everyone else off the hook. Particularly since, as you pointed out,…

There are absolutely times and places to discuss the very real issue of the devaluation of Black women in America, but this isn't one of them. You're being beyond presumptuous here.

I'm a black woman, and sure as hell my white boyfriend ain't afraid of me.

The thing is, he only said "love is colorblind" because some idiot said something like "he can't handle a strong black woman." I think OP Hermione takes issue with a larger phenomenon of misogyny (or misogynoir) wherein black men sometimes fetishize/express increased interest in white women and it's not really a…

There's actually a huge disparity between the number of black male/white female relationships and black female/white male relationships. It's something like twice as common for black men to date white women than the reverse. And that's . . . interesting. And it's likely that cultural attitudes about black women have…

This article was not a discussion of black women, or whatever problems that group has finding mates. This was a discussion of this individual man and his interactions with HIS wife and children.

So, what you're saying is that he deserved all the hateful comments her received for being married to a non black woman because he should realize that society is really hard on black women? Because that's the conclusion that's drawn from what you're saying.

What if a black person man doesn't know why he loved his wife? He just did? Why does he have to analyze it? I mean, can't that just be a sacred, left-alone thing? We don't expect white people to date only white people so much anymore, and outside of the United States, black people are allowed the same in other…

I don't think that any man should have to justify why he married the woman he married, regardless of his or her skin color. I don't see a reason as to why he should have talked about the cultural devaluation of black women, because he didn't devalue them, he isn't one and he didn't marry one. He didn't even have to…

I would argue that people are not colorblind but that love can be. My love for my husband is just love - at the same time, as an individual I recognize his race as an aspect of who he is and how the world works to shape his narrative. I think a conversation about how black women are viewed could be good (or bad,…

I guess I'm not even remotely seeing the issue with the statement that "love is colorblind." You love who you love. Why does he need to explain it any farther than that?

Maybe this is an example of when an issue should be a part of a larger series, or when a blog should not be transplanted without any added work? I wouldn't exactly expect a mommy/daddy blogger to be equipped to perfectly tackle the dynamic you're talking about. That being said, it was Jezebel's decision (or GM's…

What should he have said?

I also don't care for the implication that Doyin's wife isn't strong due to her race. Pardon me? Really? Last I checked, the Japanese onna-bugeisha were pretty bad-ass, as were the Apache women who fought in battle, or my ancestors, the Celts. How about the women of just about every race currently serving the…