My gyno would disagree with yours. She said she herself had one, took it out, got pregnant within 2 months, got another IUD, took it out, had another kid, etc. I think she had something like 3 kids in 6 years, all planned? Zero problems conceiving, you just have to get the IUD taken out, which is (according to her)…

Yes, but then you also have to deal with (shudder) the business school students! (Also, you frequently don't get graduate students, which hinders research productivity if that's something you care about.)

Eh. Need reasonable higher-level math competence, but I wouldn't say "serious math skills." Especially if you are okay with not passing *all* the exams. If you can get through even 3-4 of them you can get a nice stable good-paying job in a whole lot of places.

That's a good idea! My husband also struggles with this - he's a big, dark guy and can look pretty intimidating at first. (Small dogs are TERRIFIED of him!) He's always super uncomfortable in situations where people might be threatened - will never ask directions from a woman alone, tries to cross the street so he's…

Drugs. Lots and lots of drugs, slipped into their drinks.

Wow, someone posts a heart-felt rant of frustration about upsetting life circumstances and you complain about punctuation. I hope you got a lot of personal satisfaction out of that one.

Holy crud, you guys - that was like a checklist of my life! Down to the getting the keys out and opening the door to say, "Hello!" when I get home! (Granted, I'm kind of half talking to my dog, but...!)

She is not my favorite - I found her earlier spots awkward and stilted - but man, she NAILED this!

Wow, you guys are harsh! I'd go to coffee with him. Except for the whole "me being married" thing. I appreciate people who are ready to quickly cut through BS and put it all out on the table. Good luck to you, Mr. Petaluma!

If your brain is telling you "no way!" then it's going to be really hard to have a good time. Don't feel bad for not going for it (or for going for it!) if that's what it feels right to do. It's normal to be a little nervous, but if you are freaking out, waiting for not-freakout-time is a great plan!

Same here! We've talked about it, and decided we're still a little too insecure/awkward, but are working on that. One of my good friends married at 18 (!!) and is still married 12 years later (!!!!!!!), and they have an open relationship and are incredibly happy with each other. She told me a couple of weeks ago, "I…

I don't agree with you. I think regardless of their sex drive, some people also really want a feeling of connection or emotional intimacy that is just not going to be there with casual sex.

No way, why would it be? Do what feels right for you! I'm 29 and have only slept with (or even dated!) 1 man - my now-husband (we've been together 11 years). I certainly didn't plan it that way (the plan was to date now-husband as a "starter boyfriend"!), but I really liked him, and kept liking him more and more, and…

Yikes, that sounds pretty rough. I've always wanted to go to Thailand and do something like the programs here: http://www.pataraelephantfarm.com/ which sound like they're pretty on the up-and-up. I guess it's like horses; there are plenty of places you can go and ride on happy, well-trained animals but also a lot of…

How do you know they are distressed? Do they look really sad or something?