Same age as you. I went through a brief period of sadness over losing the automatic attention given to younger women. Then, I noticed that I was not invisible to all people, only to those who use others to fulfill selfish needs. I was invisible to men with poor self-esteen, men who only wanted to get laid, women who…

Well I’m old too. So I’m in a whole other category.

Yup. Stopped dying my hair too. Letting it all go grey. I’ll try loud. It sounds fantastic!

Try getting old. I am 58 and my new superpower is that I am invisible to men under 80 as well as to a surprising number of women.

I find that I can just piss men off by knowing things they don’t understand. Basically just the way I live my life pisses off certain men. Lucky for me it’s the type of men I’d not want to be bothered with anyway. But, no, I am not going to act dumb or incapable of doing things just for some dude’s benefit.

And get old. It’s awesome for getting guys to ignore you. I’m loving it so much. Fat and old is BONUS!

Great piece. And may I recommend getting fat? I am completely invisible now. But nothing makes men angrier than a fat feminist who loves herself. Example number one - Lindy West. She rocks.

This is so good. And mirrors so much of what I feel. Hopeless and angry and just so fucking full of rage at the class of men that I don’t know what to do with myself.