So how do any of your stated qualities (intellectual, witty, sociable) relate to the fact that you are demonstratively the kind of person who would be an accomplice in (note I said accomplice in, not cause of, not instigator of) the destruction of vows between two other people? You can act as if your action was…

I think #4 steals away the validity of emotions stemming from a betrayal. Saying it’s about control makes your hurt feelings simply about controlling the relationship, like you need to simply ‘get over’ the fact you can’t control shit. No, if you literally stab me in the back, I’m not JUST upset that I couldn’t…

Or as the old adage goes, Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

“there’s a big difference between getting caught up in a moment and having a months-long affair”

I completely disagree. You can’t ‘accidentally’ cheat. It’s a conscious decision not only to act on your feelings, but to allow yourself to feel the feelings. A faithful partner who starts feeling inappropriate feelings for…

BRAVO, especially that last one!

1. Admit that you’ve never contemplated a world in which things didn’t end up perfectly for you and readjust accordingly.

See my gut reaction is “cut off his penis” but your suggestions are much more constructive.

This article could have been a lot shorter... under no circumstance is it ever advisable to stay with someone after they have cheated. I’m sorry, but if anyone who has been cheated on and stays in the relationship made the wrong choice, plain and simple.