Recognizing the signs of abuse and defending her against attacks from people who don’t understand abuse isn’t treating her like a child. Adult abuse survivors know what it feels like to lose those parts of yourself.

Chris McDaniel is always talking about birth control. Like, a lot. Always about wanting to pay for it. It’s like a freaky fetish or something.

While I agree with that sentiment, that narrative doesn’t even come into play until the person recognizes and admits they’re being abused.

Free will is one of the things you start to lose in an abusive relationship without even realizing it. Do you know how long it was after I left my husband before I realized I could cut through the grass? I’d spent so much time being punished for leaving the sidewalks that I forgot it was a possible action I could take.

Abuse changes the game.

Thank you so much. I was starting to lose faith in Jez commenters... So many dismissing the abuse. :(

I’m not sure you’re considering his need for control, here. And the “while he’s president” has mattered to him for pretty much zero of his other activities.

Victimhood and helplessness is a product of abuse, not femininity. Abuse destroys your sense of agency and free will no matter what gender you or your abuser are.

Fuck no. I will not hold an abused woman responsible for supporting her husband’s bullshit. I’ve been there. I understand the consequences if she didn’t perform how he wanted her to.

Yes to all of that! <3 Consider this comment extra stars, since I have only one to give.

I’m certainly not in their circle enough to hear expressions of love. The main thing I have to go on is that I married the same species of abuser, and I know firsthand how easy it is to get fooled, addicted, and trapped. They know how to tear a person down and manipulate them.

“Class” here having the definition of “white skin”.

I wouldn’t be surprised if her initial interest was in meeting a rich man so that she could live well, but narcissistic abuse is incredibly effective in getting the target to fall in love, remain addicted, fear and obey, and lose all sense of agency and ability to leave. It takes an average of seven times for a woman…

Unless her prenup addressed that. She could have an NDA that gives him all the profits from anything she breaks it for.

Damage him? If a scandal could damage Trump, this article today would be about President Hillary Clinton.

At this point I don’t even know anymore. =( I had previously believed that Trump was a less dangerous option than Pence because a responsible RNC would provide him a handler skilled in Narcissistic Personality Disorder to childproof the oval office and help guide his actions. Clearly they are not, and the only…

Hell, the end is nigh with Mike Pence, too. :/

Thank you. We’re going to need that strength for this next four years.

Domestic abuse survivors, show of hands: For how many of us was this *incredibly* familiar?

I can’t tell by your wording, but I hope you’re away and safe now. <3