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Because abusers do not come up to you and introduce themselves by saying, “HI, I’m an abuser and I will systematically tear down your self esteem and fuck up your mental health for the next 20 years. Want to get a drink?”
A good rule of thumb to live by: never put anything you find in Times Square inside your body.
I attended a great conference once where a speaker explained something about domestic abusers that is commonly misunderstood. She explained that the idea of a husband flying into a rage and hitting his wife in a fit of passion is a stereotype of abusers that simply IS NOT TRUE.
And the article doesn’t even say hat the family had been against her marrying him just that when she killed him they had been estranged and she was isolated. It’s completely possible that they liked him at first and only after time when he began to be abusive and isolate her they started to dislike him. First step in…
Honestly? I used to beg my abusive ex-husband to stop being nice to me because it just confused me and made me feel worse. I know you’re trolling, but I just cannot scroll past that. Abusers start out nice. Otherwise they’d never have victims. They give you the silent treatment for days on end but then rub your…
True, but even if she had been 45, it makes no difference. Abusers don’t have special markings to alert everyone to their presence. People of all ages and backgrounds fall prey to abuse. Why? Because it’s often insidious and subtle in the beginning. They often wear their victims down slowly, chipping away at their…
Do you think all abusive assholes come bearing a warning sign? Ultimately it doesn’t matter why she was with him. She wasn’t the one beating and sexually abusing people for decades. He was. She was not responsible for his behavior.
Presumably she didn’t know he was “like that” when they wed. Abuse is usually gradual in the beginning. Then, as the abuse escalates, they isolate you. A process made easier by the shame the abused feel when made to answer questions like “Why did you marry someone like that?”
The fact that this is the biggest question you have after reading this story is a reason why violence against women is still so prevalent. Here’s an obtuse answer to an obtuse question. The majority of abusers are super charming and loving in their good moods. They also find ways to slowly chip isolate the person they…
How do you not see the obvious answer here? He was probably sweet/kind/amazing to begin with, then over the years let his real abusiveness come out. I mean JFC how do you not get that. Everyone is their best self in the beginning of a relationship. Some people are hiding messy habits, and some are hiding abusive…
They don’t wear signs.
Lol are you serious?
Netanyahu has gone so far off the deep end that he’s willing to let LITERAL HITLER off the hook if he can blame it on Muslims instead. The man’s more of a threat to Judaism and Israel than any of these people he keeps accusing of being anti-Semitic.
Trying to establish someone’s guilt based on what their reactions to traumatic events is a fool’s errand. There is no standard way for a person to respond to accusations that they are responsible for the tragic death of their sister 20 years ago.
Give it up, sore loser. Bernie wasn’t popular enough to win the nomination, and was never going to win the general election.
And I don’t believe for a second Sanders would have been effective in the white house. The GOP would have relished making him look like a doddering old fool without a clue, and Sanders never cared enough about his superficial image to have much chance of countering that narrative.