This video makes a lot of good, cogent points. It’s particularly true that a lot of the blowback has to do with our contempt for teenage girls and lack of conflict with similarly problematic movies/books which are pitched towards boys and men.

So, you robbed a bank/liquor store/broke into a home? Oh, you’ve reflected on it and won’t do it again? No prison for you then- said no judge ever.

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Strangling is absolutely a sign that he will kill you eventually. I’m so glad you got out. Seriously, best thoughts for you. 

At this precise moment in time (God knows what other hells he will inflict) that’s the worst thing about his presidency so far- his judges will be with us for decades and since the republicans stalled so many judgeships under Obama there are hundrends

And that reflection will lead him to....don’t leave them alive. Can we please start up some kind of campaign to remove this judge and and DA and get this guy retried based on them (is that still double jeopardy)? 

Oh please, like black women in the public eye are not accused of the same kind of cattiness (accurately or not?). Don’t make this one about race. 

The Harper’s publisher should really know the definition of assault if he’s going to mouth off about it. There’s a reason for the legal phrase ‘assault and battery.’ Battery is actually physically harming someone, assault is threatening harm. Women are often verbally assaulted without being bodily harmed at least in…

Yep, I used to get those semi-regularly. Guys calling up and asking what my bra size was or something worse. Just awful when you’re a kid. 

I haven’t read the full Ghomeshi article and I likely won’t as I don’t want to give them money or clicks or make myself feel more sick over it, but the phrase that I’ve read, ‘demanding on dates,’ just blows my mind.

I read that interview with my jaw dropped. It was so enraging. 

An editor should be fired for not fact checking an article, any article, but specifically such a controversial one. That’s what happened at Rolling Stone when a reporter wrote a story that turned out to be untrue. And an editor would have a lot more reason to believe a reporter than someone writing an exculpatory…

I find it a bit scary if someone like him couldn’t even imagine that liking to hit women (in any context) and bully, etc. coworkers might put him in the asshole category for most people if they knew of it. The delusion is just mindblowing. 

I about rage stroked reading it the other day. Read the Slate comments if you really want to ruin your day. I’d say more than half are pro-Buruma/Ghomeshi. I despair sometimes. 

The problem with Soon Yi for me is that she has a ton of reasons to potentially lie, unlike most other children, even children of stars. Making Mia look bad and therefore the behavior of Allen (whose clearly the real reason for the article) not as bad somehow. One other child says that Mia was a bad parent (though I…

I think she’s stretching for abuse and neglect allegations. Mia Farrow doesn’t seem to wear makeup most of the time. Especially in the late 70s early 80s there were a lot of women who were pushing back on makeup and bras in particular as part of the patriarchy, etc. If her daughter expressed a real wish at an…

Weirdly, what I find striking from the excerpts is the makeup thing. She is attempting to present herself as this totally autonomous woman with her own agency from a very young age, etc. and then she gives this pathetic, I still don’t know how to wear makeup at 47 because mommy never taught me. It comes off as deeply…

Nope, appears to have been a ghoul since birth. 

You make very good points and the more I think about it, the more I realize that I haven’t read many recent white male American authors in a long time. I’ve tried Franzen and Foster Wallace and found them both too irritating to finish. I love James Baldwin’s writing just for it’s power and as far as I can remember he…

Look up the tape of him in high school urging students to throw their trash on the ground as he’s sure everyone is ‘sick and tired’ of picking up their trash when they have janitors. There are contemporary student reactions. He was hated by everyone (student, faculty, PTA, the admin) at his school for his horrible…

I mean this with all the kindness and empathy in the world: He is not your responsibility and none of the choices he made and continue to make were your fault. I know that’s SO hard to internalize, but just know that you gave him years to get it together and he didn’t, so he’d be in essentially the same place and…