This is why I don't want children. Well, I've never wanted them, really. But my husband does and he thinks everything will change and it'll be fine and he'll help so, so, so, so much and I'll be a great mother! But I'm worried I'll hate it and resent the children; children aren't stupid and they'd know. They'd know…

The problem is, by saying you only feel sympathy for their children and not for these women stuck doing something they regretted, you're ensuring that women will continue to feel ashamed for having these feelings and they won't speak about this frankly to people close to them or anyone else, and will keep these…

This is when I cackle in mean girl satisfaction: I'm from Eastern Europe, where it's not only acceptable but traditional to give the young couple money. There's also a going rate per person that everyone magically knows (various factors affect it). Depending on how smart one is about their wedding and how rich their…

We did a combo - honeyfund is a great way to let people donate to your honeymoon without just asking for money, because you can register for things like dinner at a specific restaurant, or a kayaking trip for two, etc. and then folks feel like they're giving you a specific experience, not just money. It's very common…

I'm totally cool with giving people what they want or ask for. I'm the type of person who is very particular and likes the things I like, so when I get thoughtful gifts from people who didn't ask me what kind of stuff I want, like or need, the gift usually blows and isn't anything I like or wanted. That said, I'm…

Personally, I love the idea of just giving people money for honey moons. That is what a friend of mine did. She is working on a PhD, and has had to move her husband around a lot based on that and family things. So he hasn't been able to find an amazing stable job. Basically - they don't have much money. They also…

I would much rather contribute to a nice thing for the couple or family like a honeymoon or something for their home that they couldn't otherwise afford, than to buy some random ornament from a registry myself.

i don't think it's tacky to ask for money as a wedding gift. for baby showers, it's a little... tacky. but only because i object to the recent trend of baby showers becoming Big Deals with registries and all that shit. it used to be a bunch of chicks playing dumb games and everyone would bring a baby outfit or they'd…

I've never understood the idea that giving money or gift certificates towards experiences as an alternative to gifting physical things is somehow 'tacky'. As someone who is relatively young, in a lower income bracket, and does not have an abundance of living space, I appreciate the shit out of gifts like certificates…

I had a friend who asked for money for a honeymoon instead of gifts and I was happy to contribute. They're young, have a home together, but one of them is still in grad school and even though it's none of my business, I'm pretty sure a honeymoon was not the most affordable thing for them. I'm single and have…

All the weddings I have attended have asked for money instead gifts which I think is cool because weddings and honeymoons are hella expensive.

I am not condemning her career choices or her personally. I just think her statement is ironic given those choices.

Well I hope her husband has the brains in the family because a comment this stupid reveals where her head is at.

Good for her daughter. But, I find this pretty ironic coming from a woman who not only perpetuates the same attitudes she is condemning, but profits off of them.

You rarely laugh or smile? Really?

Brazilians are the wooooooooooorst when it comes to denial of their country's racial issues.

Sorry, but Brazil is not the place of racial harmony you claim it to be. That's some white nonsense.

The author clearly wrote that she wasn't trying to say they shouldn't. It's how they praised her...and no ones saying there aren't white women who do, but in American culture as long as I've been alive it's been something that isn't considered attractive mainstream/to white americans, my white female friends consider…

Yeah, that's what I want to know. If it turned out to be more effective than a typical mouthwash regime, I would TOTALLY do it, but this article makes it sound like it's just better than doing nothing.

yes. i'd imagine this is similar to a 20 minute blowjob, only less rigorous. either way, no thanks. i'm good.