Yeah that’s why I posed the Tinder thing as a question, I’m not really up on what it’s evolved into. She’s definitely hunting unicorn here though.

Here’s the thing: I’d refer you back to Dr. Nerdlove from a few weeks ago where it was noted the differences between male and female sexuality. In fact, it’s linked to in his response.

Yea, when your type is guys who want relationships and then you kinds act like you’re in one (dating, cuddling, hanging out and not having sex), that’s what people will think.

Given how much she values the friendship side of the FWB relationship, Tindr doesn’t seem like a great outlet.

I certainly can imagine how someone in their twenties can’t tell the difference between her friends with benefits and a relationship.

FwB,

I don’t understand LW1. She takes people out on dates (talking and flirting). She cuddles with them. She has sex with them. These are all things that lead to emotional attachments, yet she seems confused that people are getting emotionally attached to her.

Long story short: double-standards and Madonna-Whore syndrome. Guys grow up being taught that they’re horny beasts and should fuck as much as possible, women grow up being taught that they shouldn’t want sex, definitely shouldn’t have it except under very specific circumstances and women who try (or do) have sex like…

I mean obviously this is just how I like to deal with it and those are my feelings, not the other other. You have to look out for your self though, no one else is going to!

I’ve never understood nor experienced the I want all the intimacy and closeness of a loving relationship but not the commitment. Seems to me like if you can’t commit you can’t really have it all. No judgement here, just my 2 cents.

As someone from the outside looking in (read: I am gay af), it baffles me how terrible straight people are at casual sex. Like dudes are successfully boinking each other every other minute on Grindr, but Tindr comes out and it’s a hellscape of catfishing and potential sexual assault. That’s not to say bad things don’t…

I 100% axe someone if there isn’t a going to be a romantic relationship. Who needs that many friends? Otherwise you’re just stuck with a reminder of what could have been, with feelings of resentment or jealousy. It’s easier and healthier to just remove them from your life so you can move on.

This needs more stars and attention. Kotaku tends to glamourize the sex industry, but added revenue means more demand for these slaves. This is the number one reason I’d ask them to stop. The sex industry is a dark and nasty place.

Player Unknown’s Battlegrounds has got me visiting Twitch every now and then, something I thought wouldn’t happen. When I visit Twitch, I deliberately seek out streamers who don’t have a camera pointed at themselves: My interest is in seeing the game played, not seeing the person who’s playing it. But cam-less…

You mean legit ass-labor?

I think you’re absolutely right. This is a huge problem with porn. How do you know who is being forced into these things? How do you know when a vid or cam is a part of the sex slave trade or not? It might not be as obvious as you think. If you’ve looked at porn, there’s a good chance you watched someone who was…

Holy shit. This is the most hilarious thing I have ever read in my life. Most people use cam girl avenues as a way to bate in a personalized way in which they can interact with whichever girl tickles their fancy.

camming is some legit-ass labor. thanks for writing this, merritt.

Probably for the same reason some people seek out personalities instead of just watching uncommentated gameplay: people like feeling a connection to someone, or having the content feel more personal.

Describing how Twitch can take technical lessons from the porn industry just reaffirms that the porn industry is always, always at the forefront of technology. No exceptions.