Nah, some kinks absolutely deserve to be shamed and that ridiculous “sex postive” attitude of all sex is great all the time thing needs to go.

OK well don’t be surprised when the guy who fantasizes about raping crosses a boundary in real life.

Nope. Some kinks should be shamed. Pedophilia? Animal crushing?

Please remember that kink shaming is not okay

Having a problem with porn that exists to satisfy men’s rape fantasies doesn’t make you sex negative, any more than you being okay with it makes you the enlightened feminist scholar you think it does.

except that many men convicted of serial rape when surveyed admit that they enjoy rape-simulation porn. there is definitely a connection between guys that consume rape simulation porn and actual rapists. i’m not saying every guy who likes rape porn is a rapist—but some of them definitely are.

Uh huh. And what about the dudes who jerk off to rape simulating porn? Are they sex positive feminists too?

nah. fuck that. there are kinks that need to be called out and shamed. like if you get off on pretending to be a Nazi and simulating rape with your partner that's pretending to be Jewish that's fucked up and you should be made aware of that.

Except women having rape fantasies is a thing completely outside a man’s choice to repeatedly simulate rape. Given the prevalance of rape and abuse - primarily of women - in sex work, porn, and BDSM, it’s relevant and valid to question the motivations of the men who choose to participate in them repeatedly and…

I’m not into visual porn; smutty writing does it for me. But enough people raved about him that I gave it a try, once. He spat in the woman’s face and simulated raping her - no thanks. Not into guys who even pretend to enjoy that shit, and if that makes me not sex-positive, I can live with that.