Heh, fair enough. High Five right back atchya!

Thank you for taking the time to educate me, I appreciate it RotatingOrange!

I think I'm seeing what you're talking about regarding Jezebel not being so great re POC on the article posted today on Korean women getting plastic surgery. It seemed to be written by a person who was about halfway through figuring out that the world does not revolve around western white people. I don't want to smack…

I think I see your point. And yes, within the 'blue state' areas being considered a racist is one of the worst things your average open-minded white person can think of. The idea that you might be perceived as racist is rather terrifying for this segment of the population. It also makes it so much harder to talk about…

Yeah, that stupid sad 'waaaaah, I'm not a racist, waaaah' reaction makes me insane. If someone is genuinely committed to living a kind and giving life they're going to want to know that they've hurt/offended someone and are going to accept the criticism. Lord knows if I say something racist and don't realize it I sure…

Well, I can only speak for myself here. When it's a group of peers it's not hard at all. It's when it's family or friends if friends. For instance, I'm in the midst of a tricky custody transfer where I'm letting go of the nephew I've raised for three years. His dad has his life together and is getting married. So soon…

Oh yeah, it is really hard. I just try to remind myself that it is way easier to feel uncomfortable and maybe open some hearts than to be the person who has to overhear it/be followed in the store/pulled over for no reason/not get a taxi etc.

Thank you for taking the time to let me know. I don't read/respond as much as a lot of people here (hence my sad little gray posts) and what I've noticed seemed to be a fairly aware group. I will have to pay more attention, as good golly I am appalled that people are willing to write what they do online in 20…

I've noticed your comments on some other articles and I think I get what you're saying. I too am frequently disgusted by white people. However, the white crowd on Jezebel tends to be significantly more aware of our privilege and trying about as hard as we can to check said privilege and learn. There are a few ladies…

I hate buying things online. Since the variation in shape is much greater in plus sized gals ordering one's size is about a 30% hit rate. Since I suck at returning things I really don't like to order online. I know every single store in a 60 mile radius that sells plus sizes and when I shop I try on half the…

Occam's Razor is our friend.

I watched a very interesting documentary recently (which of course I cannot find the name of, google, why do you fail me!) that addressed what white people can/should do to confront racism. I don't know if the letter writer is white, but if I assume that she is the concept is relevant. The basic premise of the…

Why on earth would you want to use it?

I've been struggling with this. I've lost my sister, my godson, my best friend, and my father in rapid succession and I know my drinking is a real problem, but whenever I try to get help there's only this one size only answer. I don't like AA, it feels vaguely cultish. But everything out there is based on this model.…

I get your point, but she could have said 'yes' instead of 'yes, of course' when asked about her use of n___. It's the blase nature of her responses that are unfathomable. It's like she just took a dump on the dining room floor and is confused why everyone is looking at her in horror.

This is my first Father's Day since losing my dad and it's really messing with me. I'm a tearful crazy person and my filter is nonexistent. I just want it to go away. I miss you, daddy.

One Hour Photo was Not Okay.

It depends mostly on the counsellor (and your willingness to commit to the process). For my spouse and me it was invaluable. We did 8 sessions with an MFT because we aren't religious. She was amazing, really understood us and our dynamic right out of the gate. Even with that though our first year of marriage was…

I completely agree. I would be so fraking proud of him and so sad he didn't trust me enough to know I'd be right there beside him hiding out in Hong Kong. I just want to believe in heroes, so I've decided to think that he didn't tell her because he loved her too much to consign her to the possibility of a life of…

Wait, this is a thing that happened? Damn ... This makes me very sad indeed. Do you have a particularly trusted source for news on Israel? I never know who to believe when I try to educate myself. Thank you in advance.