I used to agree with what most people are saying: if the sex part of your marriage is dead, talk to your partner about fixing it, opening up or divorcing, otherwise you’re a shitbag. I still think that’s solid advice, but I was a side piece for two years and came out of it with a little more compassion for people who…

This is for everyone here moralizing about how terrible this guy is: he gets off on cheating. He literally has a cheating fetish. As long as his wife doesn’t find out, nobody—literally nobody—gets hurt.

‪”I feel like that is the untold story of this data leak—how many people just aren’t getting a sexual connection they want. And rather than talk about how people could solve this problem, everyone is just moralizing.”