It’s more relevant to #metoo than it is do traditional politics, IMO. People are working toward stopping predatory sexual behavior in the workplace, and Clinton/Lewinsky is a classic example of that. To normalize a relationship between a boss and an intern creates a culture where women are perceived as sexually…

You can care about more than one thing at a time.

An imbalance of power has nothing to do with virginity, it has everything to do with the positions of power (or lack of power) that both parties hold in the workplace. He was literally the most powerful man in the world and she was an intern, it’s not a equitable sexual relationship.

I give a flying fuck not only because it’s the epitome of sexist double standards but also because when we ignore men like Clinton, we pave the way for men like Trump and then we wonder how we got here.

It all matters. All of it. A president who won’t speak out about another president and his horrible behavior matters. A president who doesn’t feel that what he did to women matters, because it allows shit like what is happening in our country to happen. It starts with getting away with calling women and people of…

I mean... did anyone expect him to have a *good* take on this?

I can only imagine the weird, misguided and just plain horrific cases of self-induced abortions that Arkansas emergency rooms are going to be seeing in the weeks and months to come.

No, Jason. No.

I dunno, Trump also likes playing Santa and I could see him being tickled by the idea of pardoning a woman because that nice famous Kim girl asked him to do so. This is the world we live in, and while I don’t think celebrity alone is a good reason for someone to be allowed to make a clemency petition in person to the…

Can I just say that the dialog around this Kim K visit has been absolutely vile?

OMG yes yes yes @ “what if I don’t care about my baby”

I read an article (I think in the Times a while back?) about a huge facebook group for people who regret becoming parents and so of course I went to that facebook group and scared the shit out of myself by reading their tales of woe. Having a kid and regretting it…

I’m with you on this question. It’s very hard. My spouse doesn’t want kids and I was on the fence but he was willing if I really wanted kids. So we just...didn’t. I’m probably beyond fertility and my only sibling didn’t have children so it’s sad (in my mind) that my mom & dad don’t have a genetic legacy. Who will care…

Is not knowing the same as “no”?

Honestly, with seven billion people on the planet, I think it is okay not to reproduce. People so often just seem to stumble into it with no forethought, or because it’s expected, the next box to tick off on a list. I think one should only become a parent if one has a genuine burning desire to raise and nurture a new…

I’m a gay dad, but as far as I’m concerned - anyone who is absolutely sure without a doubt in their mind that they want children is insane. It’s stressful and expensive and fraught with potential tragedy.

I was really indifferent to motherhood, and knew in my heart it’s not what I wanted. It almost caused my husband and I to divorce when I was 33. At 35, I lost my business which was my “baby” I also fell pregnant at the time and ended in a termination. A year later I fell pregnant the same time I got a dream job…

A baby being worth the expense is a crapshoot. Probably not a nice thing to say, but true. Ultimately, babies are people, and you might get one you don’t like much. I was extremely fortunate to spawn one so much to my own liking that I can’t imagine anything better in the world, but I have friends who have had…

I am so with you on this. If I was a millionaire who could hire a nanny and wrap the kid in plastic, I’d have a kid in a heartbeat, but since none of those things are true, I’ve been fence sitting. My boyfriend is also a perfectly balanced fence sitter; I worry more about the money, he worries more about the endless…

So psyched for this book. I loved How Should A Person Be? and so much of it mirrored my life. Now I am 33, married, and the central question of my life is whether or not to have a baby. Heti seems to be writing exactly the books that I need at just the right time — not that I expect to find an answer in them, only…

That is okay because Alan Rickman was great in everything he did, even that goofy movie where Matt Damon and Ben Affleck were fallen angels.