Okay. See ya.

Are you going to tell me how on earth she managed to give off “second-hand benevolent white woman’s burden-style racism” by taking a photo with Debra Messing?

Could you explain the racist thing? What am I missing?

What’d she do? She’s just there in a photo with Debra Messing, she’s not even saying anything.

In every interview with her I’ve read, she seems completely miserable.

Where in my comment did I type trans people love self victimization? I typed not to turn away the imperfect, and those tweets were pretty much “allies don’t exist and trans people have to hoist themselves up”

Sure but you also don’t turn away imperfect allies. Progress is so slow. My parents marched during the civil rights movement and said if they had turned away every white person that was not the perfect protester the movement would have died before MLK.

Yes it is. It reminds me of the parents I knew growing up who so badly wanted their kids to be perfect that they criticized their efforts, even when the kid was trying their hardest. Eventually most of those kids said fuck it and turned into troublemakers, because they couldn’t ever get it right, so why keep trying?…

this. it makes us allies feel like it’s lose-lose and it is defeating.

I’m hoping that Hari was just tweeting from a place of frustration and exhaustion, and doesn’t actually feel that way about the people who care. There’s a tendency to harshly criticize allies of a lot of causes, and I find it really counterproductive. I think it’s partly because allies will actually sit there and…

One thing is certain: Hari Nef hates us. All of us. Everyone.

Or, to put it more simply: If you think everyone’s an asshole, usually you’re the asshole.

I got where you were coming from. I guess I would be a bad ally according to Hari Nef and at this point I guess I’m fine with that. I support LGBTQ causes and awareness wherever possible, but it’s also not my entire life and some people take a really entitled attitude in saying that if your life doesn’t revolve around…

Because I read the tweets, I hate trans people now? I’m confused.

Doesn’t “everyone hates me” get old eventually? Just because people have never been exposed to something and feel awkward as they try to understand did does not equal hate. The self-victimization gets fucking exhausting after a while. The world is not perfect but gay, lesbian, and transgender people are experience…

She doesn’t really look like this. She’s gorgeous, but this photo is not accurate.

My guess, the bigamy thing’s gotta be true. The Church would never grant an annulment after all that time and all those kids without a truly major reason like that. But I still think Alan lived with the woman and supported her all that time, she should get some of the marital property no matter.

There are plenty of things I both have and haven’t done. But I never “of” done anything.

That seems totally fair!