Oh the 90s. I remember just wearing full length fishnet sleeves under everything and suddenly it wasn’t an issue. Goths FTW.

ya, you’re an asshole. life must have taught you that?

Yup, my brother and all his jock friends showed up one day their senior year in miniskirts, to protest the policy. It got changed, so yay.

And even now, *coughcoughcough* years later, i still see my friends’ children staging similar protests and actually effecting change. Makes me damn proud, every time.

The fact that he's checking out teenage girls and then acting like its their fault is line textbook male privilege in the worst way. I'm sorry that happened and sorry that it happens still

...but kids aren't going to school in those outfits. They ARE being policed for visible bra straps, and showing their shoulders, or one inch of tummy flesh. They're just bodies, why do we have to be so fucking scared of them?

All of this makes me so sad.

The standing up straight thing is very real. My boobs are huge, and if I stand up straight, it looks like I’m thrusting them out. After being accused of showing off one too many times, it’s easier to slouch.

Also appropriate for shorts:

Yes. The Stanford Prison Experiment taught me all I need to know about power (whether real or perceived), and that it can apply to all situations. It will be abused, unless you keep yourself in check and consider consequences.

as a 20 year old that has for some reason been attracting middle aged men on dating sites, thank you. it's fucking gross when middle aged men go after young women (when the young women haven't specifically sought it out - that's a completely different problem that needs to be addressed at another time) and then say…

Normal does not mean healthy or sane. It means that it happens fairly regularly in people who might wish otherwise. And who may have to struggle against the signals their body is sending.

The attraction is normal. Acting on it isn't, and especially if you are in a parent/child relationship. It was his responsibility to protect her from it, and he failed her. Further I would argue that he groomed her and preyed upon her.

She was 19..I was very, very confused when I was 19. He however..

I can imagine this: people who fall in love often speak of instant recognition that they have with their potential partner. With a genetic family member, I imagine that there is a similar instant recognition that the author describes. We have no model for this in a platonic fashion and so, perhaps, the circuits get…

Great point, except that this is actually a very old story.

I also had no idea what was normal in a father-daughter relationship.

I think there's a difference between feeling attraction and acting upon it. I'm not sure about the numbers myself, but that might explain part of it.

The author notes that the figure is disputed. It's probably not that high, but still much higher than anyone would be comfortable with...

I am usually on board with TW requests, but the title kind of gives you a major idea of where this was going.

This story is horrifying, but I don't see how we can find fault with the author for telling it. Well, some people can, but those people are terrible and the kind who say DV victims are stupid because "they don't just leave."